Good advice from everyone! Thanks! It's reassuring to hear that the boats I have on the list are similar - I was a little worried that there were some odd standouts.
As for my wife being "on board" but disillusioned by the boat show, fear not. She harbors no misunderstandings about what we can afford, or how much boat is too much. I mean, I love the Hylas 46, but it feels like too much boat. I really don't want to spend all my time fixing stuff; I like to sail, and I want them to enjoy it, too. She agreed that the Delphia 37 was a hot little boat, though, with the Sabre 386 a close second. I'll keep checkin' that lottery ticket.
It's wonderful to have a board like this where us newbies can read and read and read....