Originally Posted by momclarissa
What helped us was that Jim gave me control of the main sheet. Whenever I felt we were heeling too far, I could let it out until I felt comfortable again. Just having that control helped my comfort level, and by the end of the season last year, I wasn't freaking out at a heel greater than 20 deg. (Didn't like it, but didn't freak out either. lol)
Beautiful! I'm going to put my wife in charge of the mainsheet our next sail. She didn't like the helm, and winching the jib on each tack was "way too much work".