Re: Captain Cool almost becomes Captain Crunch....
If you wanted to hold your course you should have hailed "starboard" to the guy when there was enough distance for him to still avoid you. Most likely he would have responded the situation disappear. If he did not, your safe escape was to tack, your tacking away takes you out of the crossing in a manner that removes all risk.
As observed above, your failure to take appropriate avoidance action is as much a violation of the rules as his failure to give way...two wrongs dont make a right.
As to Tonytheboat's story, that has to be complete baloney, both in that the circumstances are fanciful (close enough to hit with a flare, yet not taking avoiding action to save his life???..) and too stupid to be considered as truthful.
Certified...in several regards...