Getting us back to the two (and only two) questions posed in the OP;
Originally Posted by smallboatlover
so what should i have done diffrently? or who was right?
Answer to question 1: You should have stayed out of his way. You should not have hailed him on the radio
to share your "few choice works".
Answer to question 2: my interpretation of COLREGS as they apply to the scenario that you outline is that you were the stand on vessel - therefore, you could be considered "in the right." However, as several of us have suggested, Lobstermen don't really care.