This discussion over husband, wife, controlling, etc., took form when JulieMor suggested it would have been OK for husband to embark on this voyage, but not wife:
I can maybe see the 61 year old husband saying, "I'll sail the boat back home. You drive back and meet me." But for the wife to say that? Very unusual.
This struck me as an odd thing for a woman to say, but anyway, I know plenty of very capable women who would be just as likely to "sail the boat back home" as their husband, partner or whomever.