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Re: Unleashing Womens Potential in Blue Water Sailing

Another thanx to PCP for the reading hack method.

In the article, she talks about the disrespect she recieved pretty regularly from dockhands and the presumption that she couldn't possibly know what she's doing because, after all, she's a girl (for example, asking her where the captain is, or asking Ben about the size of the boat when she was right there, and he'd reply, "Ask Teresa, its her boat" etc). I haven't found that to be the case, and it would be interesting to find out why my experience is different. Generational? Is it an age thing? (I'm in my late 50s, Teresa is perhaps 30 years younger) Does it differ depending on cruising area? (I'm in the southeast US and Bahamas) When I talk with bridgetenders, marinas, or commercial traffic on the VHF, they almost invariably reply with calling me "Cap" or "Captain" or "Ma'am." Generally when we're docking I'm at the helm, and Dan is forward with the lines. But once in and tying up, I haven't had any issues with dock hands looking to him and not me to pay, ask where power hookup is, or any other boat settling issues. And my friends say I'm, if anything, hypersensitive to gender issues, so I'd definitely notice!

I think her suggestions are practical for women who aren't equal partners in their relationships afloat, and need to alter the balance.
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