Of course, I doubt that any of these communities give a rat's a*s about cruisers or visiting sailors as we just do not put enough MONEY into the local coffers; like a couple of dozen tour buses a day. Anyway, they've "Got Mine" so screw everyone else!
As it turns out, the State of Connecticut requires consideration of transient anchorage(s) in reviewing Harbor Plans before they are acted on by the appropriate Town legislative body. In our area we did just that in Mystic/Stonington--designating three transient anchorages on the Stonington side of the Mystic River. We also constructed a dinghy dock for transient use just south of Mystic Seaport and convenient to the "downtown" area. There is another, larger dinghy dock placed by the Mystic Fire District just south of the Rt. 1 drawbridge and there is another public dock and launch within several hundred yards. Part of the minimal mooring fees on the Stonington side of the Mystic River is contributed to the free pumpout boats that serve our area.
Maybe there are communities who haven't met the highest standards for free transient accommodations, but the sweeping indictment of New England communities as uncaring is off the mark.
Maybe part of the problem is that the more popular areas have intense competition for space and the allocation of "free parking" on the water side becomes limited or non-existent, just like on the land side in these areas. Some areas like Newport institute "resident parking" policies to assure that the local population can park in reasonable proximity to their homes. Perhaps there are parallels on the water side that are not appreciated by visitors.