I haven't read the whole thread to see if it has been mentioned, but I would like to suggest a J40 or J42. It has many of the features you want except it has 2 heads (I use the aft head as FWG and harness locker when underway) and laminate below, which I personally much prefer to the standard teak cave, but that's personal choice. The Js
are fast and very seaworthy and have a great galley. Take a look at one.