Re: can I afford to continue sailing
My husband and I had a nice long talk before we got married:
1/ no couch potatoes
2/ we participate, not observe
3/ we wouldn't hold each other back from things we enjoy as individuals
Everything comes down to communication and having a true sense of self while allowing for differences of opinions. You chose a marriage so if you want to stay married, I'd spend some time off the boat with your wife and kids until this is resolved. But, I wouldn't sell the boat. I'd reinvest in figuring this miscommunication out. It's either now, or never.
My husband was widowed when we met and married. I'm glad we both were middle-aged and knew ourselves. We also profoundly understand that life is much shorter than we realize and the time we spend on our boat, doing the things we enjoy are priceless.
But, I have to admit I didn't love sailing when we started (I love it now!) but I saw HE loved it and that made me happy. Happy people are better spouses so figure this out so you can stay married AND happy.