You're thrashing. It's common when there are too many choices, don't feel bad. We see it a lot on Sailnet and we've all been there.
1. Set a budget.
2. Set a size range
3. Pick no more than 2 builders. Since your experience is limited, I'd recommend a quality production builder like Catalina or Beneteau. They're good boats.
There is a notion out there that using a broker will cost you more. Not true if you value your time. I can say from personal experience that our broker for Victoria
saved us 13% off our accepted offer price when the survey came back with problems. A broker will filter your desires and help focus the search. We set up an appointment, looked at 3 Sabres and bought one of them. Search lasted one day with about a week prep before calling the broker.
I'm starting to wonder if you shouldn't buy something manageable that will do the job and get you on the water relatively inexpensively. Then your tic list will change and you can move to another boat when ready.