Sometimes you just got to:
Spread your arms and hold you breath
Always trust your cape
I've seen "experienced sailors" crumble in nasty weather, but I've not seen a Cabo Rico crumble.
I'll admit to being a sissy, at 30-35 kts. I'll turn downwind and run squealing like a little girl who's seen the boogey man for any shelter if available. But I don't know how you can instill people with the confidance that the boat won't sink and the storm will end. Sometimes you just got to lay back, hang on, and wait it out.