Since you asked and I own a Nauticat 33, I'll provide some of my opinions on these wonderful boats - as biased as they may be.
The program for your next boat sounds similar to the one me and my wife developed four years ago - before purchasing True Blue, our 1986 Nauticat 33. Although, it's no secret around here lately that due to my wife's fear of heeling, when the wind kicks up over 15-18 knots, I typically end up easing the sheets when she's aboard, or motoring to destinations more than I'd like. She's Ok with light to moderate wind sailing though.
Regardless, the sailing performance of some
Nauticat models, has been stated to be among the best of any production "motorsailer" on the market. They're also well known as being the best-built motorsailers in the world - "The quintessential 50/50 motorsailer".
It is important to note however, that the tall-rig, modified fin-keel version, with a skeg-hung rudder, sails much faster than the shorter rig, full keel model. If sail performance is important to you and your wife, the deeper draft model is a must (what I have). Currently, there is only one tall-rig listed on yachtworld that I know of - a 1985 in Seattle selling for, I believe - $169 k - still under your $200k budget. You'll find various other shoal draft models, listed for just under $100 k.
On occasion, I get rare opportunities to see just how well my boat can sail in higher winds - like this past week and weekend for instance, since my wife left for NC for 2 weeks earlier this week. Before I join her late next week, I'm getting in as much solo-sailing as possible.
This morning, I sailed close to hull speed, broad reaching in 15-20 kts true wind. This may not seem fast to most monohull sailors here, but considering it's a 9 ton 33 ft ketch, with a beefy displacement/length ratio of 349, and designed specifically to motorsail, I think that's pretty impressive. Equally impressive is the vast amount of interior volume, plenty of storage, 140 gal water tank and good range under power with 160 gals of diesel split in 2 tanks.
I won't take up much space here by describing the countless amenities, build quality and many interior layout variations available, nor do I have much time since I just stopped home for some provisions and I'm about to head back down to the boat for the night. But, I urge you to become better educated with Nauticats by checking out the various online Nauticat resourses. I could post some links later if you'd like to learn more.