Lived aboard a 2007 Jeanneau 36i for the last two years. The Jeanneau will probably have a lower PHRF rating than the Hunter (mine's 117) meaning that it should be faster. I think you'll find the "fit and finish" and attention to detail better on the Jeanneau. The 36i has a nice head with stall shower. Due to modular construction, the galley on the 36i is the same as the 39i.
Not sure about parts sourcing on the Hunter, but the Jeanneau is a Euro boat--Swedish bilge
pump, Italian hoses, great British (Lewmar)
hatches, etc. It's all good gear, but as things need replacing (just the bilge
pumps so far) I'm getting US-made equivalents. The engine is Yanmar and it's bulletproof. All the deck hardware is
Harken (US) and well thought out. I single hand with no problem. The Jeanneau is more of a traditional
rig with a 130% genoa, so you'll probably fly a bigger asym
spinnaker than the Hunter will hoist. I use an ATN sock which makes flying the asym easier.
Bottom
line: Both are good boats that will work for you. Sail them both with your wife (and maybe even daughers) along and see what feels best.
P.S.---If you're looking at new boat and have the resources, I highly recommend you look at the Jeanneau 36i Performance. Deeper keel, taller
rig, faster boat.