Thanks.. your wisdom is helping. Yes she knows all about MOB drills and routinely helms the 22, knows how to start the motor, drop sails (on her head since I don't have a topping lift..etc). I am encouraging her to enroll in my friends ASA class, but her attitude is "why", you always take care of everything.
If, in your opinion, is to not "lock" the wheel and have someone there to steer under my direction, then maybe this will work - she certainly can do that. I will never forget the night she ask to drive the boat back to the slip and land it herself. I figured WTF, everybody needs a shot, and she nailed it. She had watched what I had done for so long (and according to her rehearsed it in her mind at night) that she did it perfect.
She still has issues understanding "wind" and "sails".. but I'm working on that. On the upside... we are a great team and makes sailing a pleasure. She is just really unsure of herself, hates heeling, and is afraid we are going to "tump". She had never been on a sailboat until she met me 2 yrs ago. The 22 was a mind-reset. The 36 is likely to scare her away. (until she sees the galley, salon, and vberth
I think I'm almost there. Sounds like if take it slow, learn the boat, and in a few years I might be able to take it out in 25+ winds with some humble confidence.
So far nobody has said your a fool... (like trying to sail my 22 in "blue water")... *tee hee.
Thanks everyone... keep the comments coming. I'm meeting with my friend next week and of course will heed his advice strongly. I'm not one to ask for help unless I know I'm in over my head....as I am now.
Thanks again.... Sailnet is a great place to vet ideas and get honest feedback.