I thought about you when I visited the Cigale 16
. That one would solve all your problems. Your wife would love it and you would love sailing it. You just have to buy it
and when you do it, please invite me for a ride. What a boat!! perfection in all sectors (and I don't mean unnecessary luxury, I mean comfort, storage, seaworthiness and sail power).
Nemier, that one comes with a garage for the dinghy, an open one, but also a big one. I think the Cigale (then called Levrier des Mers - Finot designed) was the first one of the "small" yachts to develop that concept, back on the 80's.
Funny thing about the Cigale is that unlike some big boats that fell like big fat boats when you look at them from the wheel post, on the Cigale you fell the boat has just the right size.
Regarding smaller boats I think that good designers think about that even if that does not show on the catalogs. It just makes the boat uglier and that does not sell boats. Take a look at the Dufour 425 cockpit. Look at that big space next to the traveler without any hatches. It only makes sense because it is the space where the dinghy travels sideways. The handhold that are there are perfect to tie it and the spinnaker halyard will drop the boat there if you pull it alone. That's too much perfection to be coincidence
I have sailed that boat and that's a perfect place for the dinghy, sailing on anchor or at the marina, the dinghy is never a nuisance.