Thank you all eversomuch for the wonderful and thoughtful responses. You've definitely given me much to consider and asked some interesting questions that I'll need to find answers to. What a terrific community!!
As for the types of boats I've sailed on, they range from various large schooners (GO TEAM TABER!!) to small cruisers. I've never had the pleasure to sail cats or Hobie's but hey, I'm not done yet!
Omaho5, your statement:
"You must do some further investigation on "stability." Put simply, A sailboat that heels over initially and easily does NOT make it an unstable boat in itself.
Conversely, a sailboat that initially refuses to heel/get tippy is not neccesarily
a stabil boat" kinda confused me, sorry. Could you please explain further?
paulk, yep, thanks kinda where I'm leaning too.
bljones, I'll check out the article (THANKS!!!) and the link too. I have given thought to the Tanzer and Hunter and am still considering. I'll look into the others as well, thanks!
Minnewaska, I wanna live where you do when I grow up!
sidney777, hello fellow Kentuckian! Thanks for the suggestion! I'll be sure to check out those reviews. And yes, a trailerable boat is preferable but not a deal breaker. If we have to pay to have it deposited in the pond and put in storage for each season I suppose we could.
Centaursailor, my 12yo has Aspberger's also. He's currently living in residential care though we get to have him on weekends. We're hoping to have him home for good around August. Thanks for your encouraging and supportive words. I too feel like this may prove to be a wonderful experience for both boys. How wonderful for your son that he's in a mainstream school setting now! I'm sure you're pleased beyond words.