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post #21 of 35 Old 03-29-2010
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I find there is an age gap in the singles that I know who sail. Single women are likely to be 30 or 40 something. Single men are likely to be 50 or 60 something. I know very few single 50 or 60 something women who sail and oddly very few single 30 or 40 something men who sail.
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Raptor's "data" re: Sailing Companions"

I think the age analysis by gender is essentially accurate. But glad for the "exceptions" to every rule" principle. The other factor is the "phased" retirement of the "baby boom" generation that may gradually alter the statistics (and available crew).
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Years ago I met an older woman on the SAILING forum on Compuserve... She was looking to do some sailing and I had access to some big boats in my (then) sailing club. I assured her things were on the up and up, that my WIFE and KIDS were coming along as well as other adults of varying ages. It was NOT a bunch of horndog guys. That plus the fact that we were sailing out of a, um, SECURE area,... she showed up and had a blast. We were friends for a few years and she would go sailing w/ me/others a few times a year. Even had us over to her house for a party.

If I'd been single I would have hit on her daughter who was only about 8 or 9 years younger than me!

Anyway, while I have pretty good crew these days ( ) I am not, was not LOOKING for some sweet thing to go crusing around w/.
In fact I would SUCK at marketing myself; I'd paint a pretty realistic picture of how cruising/sailing REALLY is. Sweating your guts out upside down in the bilge when something breaks. Rough seas/strong wind that are right on the nose when you have to go somewhere. etc.etc.

I figure I want someone on board who knows what they are getting into and WANTS to be there.
First time I took lady friend sailing it was about 65 degrees, wind 20-23 w/ gusts and built to 25 gust into the 30's. Seas about 3 feet solid plus. Us in a Lippincott 30; disp about what, 8000#?
Fortunately w/ furling main which made it easy to handle.

She LOVED it.

Nah, I'm not going to put up a post looking for female crew. They want to sail,they can come find me.
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Adam there was a thread on hersailnet a while back, she went with this guy on a lark, apparently the boat sunk and they were rescued.
Wasn't this pretty much the plot of Swept Away... ?

Of course, I don't think she stayed with him after they were rescued.

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I find there is an age gap in the singles that I know who sail. Single women are likely to be 30 or 40 something. Single men are likely to be 50 or 60 something. I know very few single 50 or 60 something women who sail and oddly very few single 30 or 40 something men who sail.
I agree with the age gap you're referencing.

I'm thinking in generalities here.

The 30 to 40 something men are probably working to much to take time for sailing (working to hard to be rich), and by the time the women get to the 50 to 60 something age they're looking for security and the white picket fence (that doesn't include a sailboat). The 50 to 60 something men are getting tired of working, and want to live life more before it's over. The 30 to 40 something women probably feel they still have time to live life, but not with the available 50 to 60 something men that have the time.
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Denise,

I'm new here, haven't made the requisite 5 posts to email you directly. If you've found other venues in which to look for sailing companions -- I have a specific adventure in mind -- please give me a shout. Or if you have an interest in such yourself, of course.

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Welcome to the group NeverLift! I'm actually not in the "market" But by all means let your ideas be known on this thread! good luck!

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Las vegas want add
marvious partner on first hit
6 months cruise 36 ft

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Met on 40 ft boat I captained - one weekend ended in 7 year marriage
she took big chance = taking off for the weekend after knowing me for 4 hours.

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captained wealthy man's yacht
acted as captain and kept the 14 y/o daughter busy while owner played with Mom MOM.
I was 15 y/o
Only dated (just friends, i was in love with boat) girl about 10 times all on yacht on florida inland waterway
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Captained 46 ft racing yacht japan = girls 15 years younger = nothing but respect for each other = sure felt good being an escort and ESL teacher.

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Met at church 2 ladies one marriage 55 ft schooner

I have been very lucky with boat ladies
Sounds like a wirlwind = 45 years of sailing 6 romances 3 marriages, 7 years each
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I generally sail single handed an enjoy the solitude most of the time. Have had some females on board from time to time and enjoyed their company. Don,t think I,d like a permanent arrangment tho. Always appears a little desperate to have to put adds about. Always got the impression N American gals aren,t shy so maybe the personal approach would work better.
Happy sailing either way.
Brian,living in Dublin were all the girls love a sailor.

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This is sort of a side note: has anyone had the experience of finding the "Mr./Ms. Right" who seems to share your passion for sailing, only to find, once the relationship becomes more serious, that they do not really like sailing as much as you came to believe?

(Come to think of it.....I hope this isn't too crass......same thing with blow_j_o_bs)

Sailing for me is a passion: I could easily spend all my free time on the water. It is tough finding a partner that enjoys it as much. I guess life and love is a compromise.

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