Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Portland, OR
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Hi Zevirii! Your passion for sailing is wonderful. We (my husband, me, and our 2 daughters ages 7&4) are moving aboard our boat in about 2 weeks. I have come a long way to get to this point. I have always loved being on the water. We have been very fortunate to have spent the last 5 years sailing and cruising around the Pacific Northwest with our friends that live aboard with their 2 children (they have mostly been raised on the boat). My husband has always been interested in living aboard and cruising, and it took some time for me to get there. He has been very patient for me to "come around". Having that room to make my own decision made a world of difference for me. Here's a couple of things that made all the difference in the world for me: 3, 1 to 2 week cruises around the San Juans (WA) within approx. 2 years. We had our kids with us and our friends had thiers and even with the chaos it was amazing to see how well our children took to it. The other big thing was taking a sailing coarse. I felt I could finally contribute while on our boat (we had a 28 ft. Sun Yacht). It really clicked for me after I took the sailing class.
I'm not trying to say that this is what will change your wife's mind, but rather, the steps I took that worked for me. I think the best thing you could do would be to not push, keep sailing those day trips and overnighters, and charter or find friends that you can cruise with for a week or so. One other idea would be to bring another adult along while you sail, so your wife can participate more and still have someone to watch the munchkin(s).
When we bought our 28 ft. boat, our youngest was about 5 months old. There were periods that we could go sailing no problem, and others where it was just too hard with the kids. Many times I thought to myself, "there's no way we could live on a boat. Our friends are crazy for living aboard with kids!" Now look at us!