Originally Posted by Zevirii
I feel that while we are pre-30 with 2 young kids that now is the time or we will never go. I want to go places and see things, and she wants to settle down and raise kids on land. I feel so confused, and frustrated. Any words from people that have been in this situation?
Two things-- you don't mention the ages of your young kids, and it's also not clear what it means "to go." For example, is your goal a week-long, month-long or years-long cruise?
The paragraph about about "or we will never go" sounds like you want a long break to sail, but so far you've only done a couple of overnights. Also, a lot of sailing parents I know, even those who were advanced racing couples before kids, have admitted that young kids will change a lot on the boat. If they're younger than five or seven, for example, one of the parents is often on kid duty while the other sails.
Anyway, your excitement is great, but maybe some intermediate goals are in order. If the kids weren't along, would your wife be more interested in sailing? In the future, would she consider some women-only sailing courses? Would she feel better if you both got some certifications? Are your kids old enough to enjoy sailing yet, or go out with only you?
Getting past the "I'm the passenger" part is a major consideration, and that may be tough if she's just not interested in sailing. As hinted above, why not try some semi-romantic "no kids along" sails, in which she could be more a beginning co-captain (who doesn't have to worry about the kids). A bottle of wine back at the dock might help...
The future, however, is always changing, and don't make too big of deal of the present. You've got years to gradually improve the situation, especially if your kids become sailors. Take your time-- you're got at least more ten years than I to sail.
p.s. I've read the Changing Course book, and it might be a little overkill given the stage you're at. Talking too much about "big changes" might be fun for some, but scary for others.