Join Date: May 2002
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Charbonneau and Paul,
I haven’t presumed to tell you, or anyone else, where to draw the line when deciding whether to stay ashore or cast off. It appears that you have already given serious thought to the subject. All I said was that it was not the right choice for me. I did not mean to criticize you for making the decision. I have absolutely no idea what your circumstances were, and I really don’t want to know. I have said that, for me, my obligation to my son did not end when my legal obligation of support ended. The law forces us to support our children up to a point, and after that it is a matter of personal conscience. Each of us has to make those choices, based on our ability, and other personal circumstances. If people think those things through, and follow their consciences, they can leave with no regrets.
You say I am “close-minded,” that I “sound bitter,” that I “sound just like your father,” and that “until we all concede, things will not be right.” I regret that you misconstrued what I said. Perhaps I should have anticipated that my comments might be misunderstood, but sometimes I tap out a message on the keyboard, and if it looks o.k. to me, I post it without realizing that someone else might read it differently.
I think people should search their souls, and make the hard choice between their responsibilities and their dreams. It’s not pleasant to think about those things, or to make those choices, especially when you want, so much, to do something, but anyone who makes the break without thinking about those things will likely regret it.