Singlehanded cruising in the Caribbean - Page 3 - SailNet Community
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #21 of 38 Old 09-23-2009
Back to just the Jon boat
 
therapy23's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Posts: 932
Thanks: 4
Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts
Rep Power: 9
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by aerie View Post
My friend's friends' brothers might be more of interest to me since I'm a woman.
Well, sorry, how should I know.

But krozet is right.

These days what I think is normal and what I think is abnormal just does not fit in the PC of the present world.

Quote:
Thanks for your advice everyone. I think I'll suggest that my friend stay ashore when his "friends" are visiting. We'll see how it goes. After a couple of weeks with him aboard, I'll probably be ready for a break anyway.
Gail
Sounds reasonable.
therapy23 is offline  
Quote Quick Reply Share with Facebook
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #22 of 38 Old 09-28-2009
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: on sailboat
Posts: 20
Thanks: 0
Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Rep Power: 0
 
Send a message via Skype™ to westerly
meeting crew

the unwritten rule of thumb in sailing is,
you can say when or you can say where,
but you cannot say both.
s/v mello moon
westerly is offline  
Quote Quick Reply Share with Facebook
post #23 of 38 Old 09-28-2009
Just another Moderator
 
Faster's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: New Westminster, BC
Posts: 16,534
Thanks: 104
Thanked 310 Times in 300 Posts
Rep Power: 10
     
FYI for your visitors: we've flown into/out of Antigua, St Maarten, Guadaloupe, Martinique, and Grenada with no hassles, usually a short cab ride to a nearby bay or marina to meet friends on their boat. Most of the islands have some sort of air service. The local hop flights can be disproportionately expensive, but it's nice not to have to 'circle back' when you only have a couple of weeks.

Ron

1984 Fast/Nicholson 345 "FastForward"

".. there is much you could do at sea with common sense.. and very little you could do without it.."
Capt G E Ericson (from "The Cruel Sea" by Nicholas Monsarrat)
Faster is offline  
Quote Quick Reply Share with Facebook
post #24 of 38 Old 09-30-2009
Member
 
micksbuddy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Fulton, Missouri
Posts: 83
Thanks: 0
Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
Rep Power: 9
 
In my singlehanded cruising, I've found it exceedingly easy to meet other cruisiers(socially, not romantically), since I almost always anchor out, just stopping by other boats when dinghying about(if you see the crew on deck) to say hi, cause you always have something in common to talk about.

Matt
Flying Scot #768
Mainship 34
micksbuddy is offline  
Quote Quick Reply Share with Facebook
post #25 of 38 Old 10-03-2009 Thread Starter
Member
 
aerie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2000
Location: Michigan
Posts: 70
Thanks: 0
Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Rep Power: 16
 
Thanks for the advice. My friend just informed me that he has now invited a THIRD friend to come for a visit. Next time I'm definitely planning to singlehand!
aerie is offline  
Quote Quick Reply Share with Facebook
post #26 of 38 Old 10-03-2009
Waiting For Spring
 
krozet's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: Aurora, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 424
Thanks: 0
Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Rep Power: 7
 
Quote:
Originally Posted by aerie View Post
Thanks for the advice. My friend just informed me that he has now invited a THIRD friend to come for a visit. Next time I'm definitely planning to singlehand!
So I take it you never voiced you're displeasure about the extra guests, or if you did then you have a real a*# for a friend...

1971 Contest 33 Hull Number 24

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."

Mark Twain
krozet is offline  
Quote Quick Reply Share with Facebook
post #27 of 38 Old 10-03-2009
Cabin boy
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 140
Thanks: 0
Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Rep Power: 9
 
Wisdom from the Dalai Lama:
Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

Wisdom from TheDollyLlama.com:
Sometimes a little dispute reminds you it never was a great friendship.

Never listen to someone describe why your project will not work unless they can show you the broken pieces of their own version. - Robert Gainer
JimHawkins is offline  
Quote Quick Reply Share with Facebook
post #28 of 38 Old 10-05-2009
Member
 
Volkhard's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: Annapolis, MD
Posts: 98
Thanks: 0
Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Rep Power: 10
 
Gail
I am sorry to read about your experience. You are the master of your vessel and nobody else should make these decissions for you. Your "friend" is not showing you the necessary respect! I understand you want to be nice and don't want anybody to loose their money or been un-invited. I assume your "friend" knows that and this got you into this situation to beginn with.I am myself victom off these kind of friends and if you are not careful they walk right over you. You are becoming a "cruise ship captain" for the time you have them on board while your friend is the hero because he is giving his friends this great vacation ...
There is alot wrong with our society and I can only agree with therapy not knowing what is "normal" behavior any more.
I am 21 month behind you and will start fulltime cruising in summer 2011.
I just hope this yourney works out for you and you will get this behind you. I will be singlehanding so I can pick and choose with whom I like to communicate. Might be the best thing for you as well until you find real friends who fully respect you.
Keep us posted how everything works out.


To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

Florida Sailor

ODYSSEY
Island Packet 37 (hull53)
Volkhard is offline  
Quote Quick Reply Share with Facebook
post #29 of 38 Old 10-05-2009
Member
 
irwin325cc's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Kemah, TX
Posts: 73
Thanks: 0
Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Rep Power: 7
 
My experience is that a "friend" like this allways brings bad karma along maybe just due to your own displeasure or it really is bad juju. I had one of these friends come to Housotn and go sailing with me and had blown a head gasket in my engine and my head and about a half dozen other things go wrong. Another friend invited himself a couple months later and all the sudden had carb and fuel pump issues. Oh yeah the engine was only two months old. Then they both thought they could fix the issues better than I could and had to just let them tinker for a couple hours before I could make them believe that my diagnosis was correct. Aughhhhh.
I would just drop the ball on him and say enjoy your flight and get a hotel/resort. I know thats easier said than done but I can already tell from you post that you are stressing over this and just think to yourself about how you are going to feel when the time comes. This is your dream and will be your reality. Just my opinion and you know what they say about opinions.
irwin325cc is offline  
Quote Quick Reply Share with Facebook
post #30 of 38 Old 10-07-2009
TQA
Bombay Explorer 44
 
TQA's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Posts: 2,909
Thanks: 0
Thanked 79 Times in 75 Posts
Rep Power: 7
 
Be careful about changing crew in a French island. They can decide you are chartering without a licence. What happens next varies but expect a couple of days wait at a minimum.

In your case this is more likely as your boat is a [ex?] charter boat.
TQA is offline  
Quote Quick Reply Share with Facebook
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

By choosing to post the reply above you agree to the rules you agreed to when joining Sailnet.
Click Here to view those rules.

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on the SailNet Community forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
Please note: After entering 3 characters a list of Usernames already in use will appear and the list will disappear once a valid Username is entered.


User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.




Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Retirement Cruising Budgets Randy Harman Cruising Articles 0 05-12-2004 08:00 PM
Criteria for Successful Cruising Liza Copeland Her Sailnet Articles 0 08-27-2003 08:00 PM
Calculating the Cost of Cruising Paul & Sheryl Shard Cruising Articles 0 04-03-2003 07:00 PM
Calculating the Cost of Cruising Paul & Sheryl Shard Her Sailnet Articles 0 04-03-2003 07:00 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome