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post #31 of 38 Old 10-07-2009
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Are you sure this guys a friend?

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Thanks for the advice. My friend just informed me that he has now invited a THIRD friend to come for a visit. Next time I'm definitely planning to singlehand!

Most of the friends I know, don't invite a bunch of strangers on trips on a boat that is not theirs.

So I ask again, are you sure this guys a "friend"?

Also we are going to be in BVI in January. If you're still around we would love to meet up share a drink and some adventure stories.


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I'd point out that if you didn't invite the person, you don't have a responsibility to host them.

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Iím new to this forum and Iíve enjoyed this and want to join in

If it where me, Iíd use your idea of telling him to stay on shore when friends are visiting.

If that expense does not obstruct his exploits, Iíd tell him the truth.

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Krozet, yes I did tell my friend about my displeasure that he was inviting extra guests, and he brushed off my concerns, saying they were only coming for short visits, 5 days at a time, and we were going to be on the boat for six weeks, so two weeks of having guests is not a big deal.... I pointed out my goals for this six weeks one of which is to write the rough draft of a book I've been wanting to find the time to write for a number of years now. He said they are his guests and he will take the responsibility to keep them entertained. He says they are people that I will enjoy meeting, that I will have a lot in common with, etc. Bottom line is, this is not how I envisioned I would spend this time.

Volkhard, I think you have hit the nail on the head. Absolutely I'm stuck being the captain while my friend is the hero.

TQA, you bring up an interesting problem that I had not considered, and I can certainly see how the situation can look like I am chartering without a license. Unfortunately the reality is that I don't expect to be compensated for my "services" which include taking responsibility for their safety while they are aboard my boat. I can just imagine them taking long showers and using up all the fresh water on board which I will have to pay to replace.

I like the idea of them staying ashore during their visits which will give me the private time I'm looking for to pursue my individual goals. I really don't want the hassle of adding them to the crew list then taking them off. The fewer visits to Customs and Immigration the better.

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IMO you just have to take a firm line with your "friend" and draw some boundaries including offloading him & his guests for those periods ... not easy, but it's a clear decision from what I'm seeing/reading.

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Miss Gail ,
What precludes you from sending your " friend " on some fool's errand & letting him return to find his things on the dock & the boat gone ??? Being sociopathic does not necessarily make you a bad person .
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Sorry to hijack the thread a bit...

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What kind of advice are you looking for? I've cruised the Caribbean singlehanded quite a bit and am returning for some more bumming about after the hurricane season, thence through the canal for points west.
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I am planning to singlehand in the Bahamas and perhaps on to VI's, then to the canal and on to the west coast. What route to Panama are you taking? ..would you recommend? Being a woman alone, I'm nervous about the coasts of Venezuala/Columbia.

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I had originally planned on sailing south to Isla Margarita, thence straight the the ABC Islands and then Panama, but now I am debating heading westwards in the northern islands and jumping from Jamaica to Panama. That passage isn't too long and while the Caribbean sea can be uncomfortable I think that I can wait for a good window as I'll be in no great hurry.

I would think that the once south of Guadeloupe it makes sense to stay away from secluded anchorages as a singlehander.


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