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nuffofTexas: the comment the next big promotion at work does always seem to be two years away....how true.

here is one adage I think is true: 'when one doors closes another door opens'
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nuffofTexas: the comment the next big promotion at work does always seem to be two years away....how true.

here is one adage I think is true: 'when one doors closes another door opens'
Yep! Don't forget this - I'm a very fit guy. Almost always worked out. Can run 10 miles - AT ALTITUDE! I had a massive coronary 2 weeks after my 50th birthday. 100% blockage of the LAD. They lost me twice. Hello! If I was not less than 5 miles from Tucson Heart Hospital I would not be here today. I'm definitely going sailing tomorrow... whenever that is.
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Dog, thank you. I think your story is very inspiring. We can't take our money and houses to the grave. Family time and a life lived is something I value too!

Kairetu, yes good point. That is why I plan to do the 4 week trip with the family this year. More experience, more shaking down the boat…and throw in knocking off some identified needed upgrades to the boat to get it ready for cruising.

Leaving the boat sitting and rotting away is not an option for me. S#%t or get off the pot as far as I am concerned!
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Thanks for sharing the story Roger...I truly hope you can get out sailing tomorrow...make your way to dock!
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Your boys are at the age where they will learn a lot by going cruising, yet young enough to be able to adapt to shore life again when you get back. Once they are teens, it will be much more difficult to go cruising...
I concur. We're dealing with this right now. We have the boat, we would love to sail south. It's the teenager who is completely against anything related to the boat. The preteen would go with us in a minute.
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Guess I'm lucky. My 19 year old college student is working on ways to attend school and cruise. He won't be with us full time but he'll spend every moment he can. His girlfriend is from Sweden. Guess we'll go across the pond pretty quick after we leave.
My 18 year old is just about to finish high school. Wants to get a tech ticket in welding. He informs me that he can work anywhere in the world if he can weld. Sounds like a great way to make a little cash here and there while cruising.
Then 10 year old step son......I'll fly back and see my dad sometime, where we going first.
The 2 year old daughter.......her mom was pulling sails 2 weeks before she was born. We were back on the boat a month after the birth. She walks with a tilt on land. I'm thinking she's ready.
Mom....is an RN. Taking a marine medical course next summer. First time she sailed with me we got caught by a gust and the boat went to 45 degrees. Looked up to where she set on the high side. She had a giant smile on her face so I married her.
Hired my mother-in-law to run my business's (2) while we're gone. She's really stepped up and everything is growing. Dang!
Bigger, blue water cruiser will be purchased next summer. Already shopping and putting the 30 footer on the market. (wanna buy a 1980 Islander with everything on it?)
Just start planning and set a date. That's what we're doing and as soon as we announced when we were leaving things started coming together!
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Really you have to make a decision between A, and B, or perhaps some compromise. Talking it over can help. Probably by reducing anxiety, or possibly by a reality check. Ultimately though the choice is between the costs and benefits of one versus the other, and one has to accept that there are losses of the benefits of the unchosen one, and costs of the chosen one. In the long run who knows what will happen or would have happened if the alternative had been chosen? The paths are different not necessarily better just different.
A problem is that the cruising path is a fantasy for many. Probably most don't make it, and most of those who do end up doing it for a shorter time than they thought. Some take to it like a duck to water. Perhaps you might want to explore the reality of cruising a bit more, before you make a choice. Kinda like taking a woman on a date or two before marrying her.
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NCountry, sounds like you've got the right idea! You've obviously done something right!

There was a 18 year old teenager in our neighbourhood who just died of an OD, I didn't know him personally but friends with teenages knew this kid. Seeing how consistently kids who get to the teenage years are lost to the pack of peers is extremely frightening to me. God forbid if one of my kids was off track in his teenage years, if the connection isn't as strong as 5200 by that point I know there won't be a thing I could do about it.

Taking the time be with my kids in a concentrated way soon (cruising) will help to build a connection which I hope to be the foundation to work through the teenage years. I have met some AMAZING kids who grew up as cruisers that I find it totally inspiring. To meet and read stories of the kids who love and appreciate there parents as learned through a life cruising in a small spacing relying on one another.

Of course it doesn't have to be sailing but we heck we're sailors now (partially by virtue of this obsession that has stuck with me for the past few years that grows stronger by the day , with every voyage, even everytime a boat breaks and we get through it and learn something! and for my family for being by my side through this grand adventure.)


NCountry- yes I agree...this winter we will be doing a second four week cruise on the boat as a family...seeing how WE do... tasting the waters as it were AND shaking the boat down
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Secondly, MikeInLA, yes, it is MY dream, but my kids have been raised on boats all there lives (weekends). And they have also been raised with the idea that we will go cruising. They love to fish, swim and play on the beach. The dream of scuba diving and surfing is magic to them. So I think they are IN on the idea (remember they are 4 and 6 - they want to do everything I (there dad) does from painting to cooking from the minute I get up to their last waking minute...this will end someday soon and I want to honour this magic time as a parent...thus the urgency to go SOON.)
'Nuff said for me. If they're in, I'm in. That was my only question. Enjoy!

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I see everyone here posting from your perspective, and I simply cannot do that. I have no career or mortgage. Instead, I'll post from the perspective of your children.
I think if you can do it, you should. If my parents had raised me on the water, I know I would have a lot better memories than I do now. Arcades, Christmases, family walks, and the dinner table.. those memories all pale in comparison to those that could have been. Learning about the world first hand, seeing all that you can see, enjoying a laid back lifestyle with the family, while having an intense sense of freedom inside of you.
Those are the memories I wish I had.
I hope you make the right choice.
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