Originally Posted by svdragonseeker
I do beleive that in order to be alone you have to like yourself and not need to be around others to feel like a person.
Some people always need to have friends around. If you can't stand to be alone (reading, thinking, enjoying the nature and the wonderful thing that is to be truly alive) forget about solo sailing.
But if you donīt mind to be alone, many times it is better to sail solo, for all the family. I explain: I am a lucky guy, my wife loves cruising, but for her cruising is enjoying live in a boat, anchoring in beautiful coves, sunbathing after diving on cristal clear waters, having a nice meal, some hours of slow sailing and so on.
She really does not like the kind of sailing I love most, I mean when the boat goes like a locomotive, blowing the waves apart and you need to be at the wheel to have things under control. For that you need a lot of wind and often some considerable sized waves. But if I have others on board that are not enjoying the ride I fell guilty about it. My pleasure is their misery. It is very unpleasant when you are having all the fun and all the others are seasick or frighten. It spoils your fun and make the others fell really bad.
So, when I sail for a distant cruising ground (over 800 miles) I prefer to send my wife on an airplane. That way I can fully enjoy the sailing and she has nothing to complain about.
In my case, I am not talking about crossing oceans, but about coastal cruising with some 24 hour passages. Normally I stay on anchor, but about each tree days I go to a marina and have always been very well received by the sailing community, sometimes even invited to share a meal on arrival.
Dragonseeker and others more experienced sailors didn't mentioned it, but the sailing community respects experienced sailors that can manage solo a boat and that is half way to be very well welcomed.
Live the experience of entering alone a marina coming out of stiff winds, in a day nobody went out to sail and you will have a lot of sailors helping you to moor your boat, asking about your trip and wanting to share your experience.
It is a very nice feeling.
Have a nice year,