I find it comical that some folks choose to air their dirty laundry concerning their marriage on a public forum, then get upset when the stains are pointed out to them. Furthermore, there are some members here who seem to believe a mixed sailing/marriage post can only be answered strictly with a sailing response (always with the same response - get lessons).
Obviously, some of these posters with marital conflict simply want validation, approval, reaffirmation, encouragement and support for their position at their spouse's expense.
Sorry, you came to the wrong place - try a small group at church, your best friend, or a nonjudgmental counsellor. Here, you will get the truth served cold, along with the usual warm and fuzzy B.S. from the feel-good crowd.
If you choose to air your private marital disputes/conflicts in public, you should expect to read a variety of responses, including those that do not agree with or support your view of the world and your marriage. If you do not like it, stop sharing your private matters on a public forum.