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Beneath the surface of the post, there was something else going on.
I'm sure you are right, although, what lies beneath may not be as nefarious as you suggest.

Without full disclosure and open discussion from the parties in question, we can only speculate as to the nature of their relationship.

I choose to do this speculation in the privacy of my own mind.
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I'm fairly confident that at this stage of life my loving wife of a half-century could NOT handle the boat by herself if something happened to me. Five years ago I fell through the hatch on my 27 Catalina. I dropped nearly 7 feet to the cabin sole, hit the edge of the bunk, fractured two ribs and nearly blacked out from the pain. My wife was with me, the engine was running at the time of the accident, and despite the fact that I repeatedly showed her how to do everything on the boat, including starting, shifting and running the engine, all of this seemed to go right out of her memory when she saw me fall. After regaining some of my faculties I climbed out of the cabin, lowered the sails and motored us back to the marina. After tying up the boat, she drove me to the hospital emergency room, where we waited nearly four hours before being seen by a doctor and getting X-rays. I was fortunate in that the ribs were only fractured, and the following week we were back out sailing the Chesapeake's upper reaches. She admittedly panicked and since then we've discovered that she has several other phobias related to sailing after a four day trip this past summer.

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I don't buy your claim that "my little lady" is supposed to be descriptive. Give me a break. My wife is petite, too, but if I referred to her as my little lady, she would likely punch me, or at least give me a look.
Interesting. So you imagine that everyone else's relationship with their wife is just the same as yours. Why do you think you feel that way? And just how often DOES your wife punch you?

(By the way, this is a sailing forum, so I would normally stick to sailing topics, but since you decided to air your marital issues in public...)
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Interesting. So you imagine that everyone else's relationship with their wife is just the same as yours. Why do you think you feel that way? And just how often DOES your wife punch you?

(By the way, this is a sailing forum, so I would normally stick to sailing topics, but since you decided to air your marital issues in public...)
The one difference is I did not start a thread asking for advice (yours or anyone's).

I talk to many, many people regularly about their marital relationship so I know for a fact everyone's relationship is unique.

The interesting thing about folks who are socially clueless is that their role in the marriage is always that of the subordinate/submissive partner. The more clever partner who better understands human relations can more easily manipulate his or her spouse, even letting that spouse appear to be the dominant partner.

Et tu?
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The interesting thing about folks who are socially clueless is that their role in the marriage is always that of the subordinate/submissive partner. The more clever partner who better understands human relations can more easily manipulate his or her spouse, even letting that spouse appear to be the dominant partner.

Et tu?
Oh My Gawd! James! I'm seeing it but don't believe its on the screen! I must admit, as much as it sickens me and how it really gets my equality and feminism feelings all in a knot.. I have to admit it's what I see in so many couples. Gawd, just watching couples walking around the Home center is a show and tell of said dynamic! "OK dear" as she falls in step behind him? doesn't anyone walk side by side anymore? But then, I look at the world only through my eyes of course. Who's manipulating who is always in question is such role play to the casual observer.

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My wife was with me, the engine was running at the time of the accident, and despite the fact that I repeatedly showed her how to do everything on the boat, including starting, shifting and running the engine, all of this seemed to go right out of her memory when she saw me fall.
Gary - did your wife practise any of this?

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The interesting thing about folks who are socially clueless is that their role in the marriage is always that of the subordinate/submissive partner. The more clever partner who better understands human relations can more easily manipulate his or her spouse, even letting that spouse appear to be the dominant partner.

Et tu?
I thought this was common knowlage...

(or wait..we're supposed to keep this a secret...SHHHH..nevermind)

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does being married mean being conjoined at the hip? does being married mean having someone who always agrees?does being married mean always having someone who can also sail the boat?,i think "being married" means many things to different people,if being married takes away one right to also being an individual,the price is way too high
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does being married mean being conjoined at the hip? ...if being married takes away one right to also being an individual,the price is way too high
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