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Thanks All for your input. So far: I've bought the book, We have been talking about the sail plan. I'll sail down the east coast to Annoplis and she'll drive down and meet me, stay in that area for the summer, We'll go home for a few weeks to catch up on getting rid of stuff. Then on south for the winter. This is plan (a) open to change. and open to more input from couples that have already done it.

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First off, as several have already suggested, you should be asking the question of HER instead of US. What does SHE have to say about what's holding her back. Then, instead of "talking her into it" I'd try to let the lifestyle itself talk her into it. Build a safety net and arrange as much of an exit plan as you can. Put your possessions in storage instead of selling them; rent your house instead of putting it on the market; include $ in the budget for flights home for holidays and other celebrations, talk the employer into giving you a leave of absence instead of quitting, etc etc. Then go sailing. Open-ended. After a month, or a few months, or a year ... you can choose to go back, or go on. The pressure is gone, if you know you can come back any time.
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PS to midnight - we'll be in Annapolis this summer, would love to get together and chat more about the life ...
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Now that all of the serious advice is out of the way...

Tell her you'll go easy, you will stop anytime she wants to, and establish a safe word that she can use whenever she is pushed beyond her limits.

Come to think of it, this advice applies to a variety of situations.

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WingNwing, I would love to have Ruth talk to someone that has taken the plunge. We spoke to a couple while standing in line as we drooled over one of the boats at the Annapolis Boat Show. She said that she never wanted to go back to "Living on the dirt" and was happy moving every six months or so, seeing new places and new people. That's for me! New places and new things to try. I would be content to follow the warm weather south and return to the north for our summer.

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Midnight, you're on - looking forward to talking with you both in the Chesapeake next summer. At the same time, your plan confuses me. You said your current boat is not the one you're taking to the Keys. So, what boat are you taking to Annapolis? Why not buy your next boat *in* Annapolis and start your trip there? Tons of choices in the Chesapeake - and save yourself that (admittedly beautiful, but long) solo voyage from the Great Lakes?
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Will one even be able to get down the Erie canal in 2012?

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Will one even be able to get down the Erie canal in 2012?
Very confusing. I believe they did temporarily reopen sections late last year to exit stranded vessels. Most say it won't all be open at once this coming year, as repairs continue. However, I can't find anyting definitive. I know someone (stinkpot) who spent last summer on the finger lakes and planned to winter on the hard. However, he also planned to get out and is unsure of his fate this year.


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Eryka,

Are you really going to leave the land of palm trees, turquoise waters, wonderful breezes and fantastic snorkeling to return to Annapolis? If everything goes as planned, I hope to voyage south to Marathon Key for the 2012/13 winter, and I can assure you that I'll have a difficult time leaving to return to the Chesapeake's upper reaches.

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