JD, sounds like you may be deciding to keep the wheel...
Our experiences, FWIW--
Our boat came from the factory with a 36" wheel and it's a good compromise for steering effort and still getting around it from either side. A few years ago I found a steal of a deal on a 44" wheel, and we tried it out for a season.
While it was lovely to be able to easily sit on the combing on either side for driving, it proved to be irritating to always step on and over the seat to get in and out of the T section of the rear of the cockpit.
I put the smaller dia. wheel back on. My shorter wife appreciated the standard wheel even more than did I.
Like everything else in sailing and life in general, you just have to find the best compromise you can live with.
We also have an AP and use it 90% of the time we are powering, BTW.
As others have mentioned, if I could budget for the folding wheel, I would probably get one... 44" again.