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Re: spent my life savings on a boat, looking for work.
As I stated from the start I felt that there were things that Steve here needs to learn. I am another one who continually tells people to pursue their dreams, but I also tell people that they should not pursue their dreams to the detriment of being able to live in reality. In reality most people like to eat, they like to have a place to live, and they might like a pack of smokes and a bath now and then too. The way we get those things is by working, being financially responsible, and by learning the difference between a realistic set of goals and a fantasy.
Those who run away from things when things get tough should always be sure they are running toward something better. I know that in my youth I was always running toward a better future, not running away from a bad past. Much better one should run facing forward, than to run facing backward, it tends to be much less painful.
Now, as to some advice for our young friend here... first I would say that I would seriously have him consider his options, in a far more realistic light. I do not know what he paid for his boat, I do not know the true condition of it, nor what it would take to get it into perfect racing condition. He did state that it was not in perfect racing condition, so I do know that much, so what I would suggest is that he figure out the realistic cost of getting it to the tip top shape it would have to be in for racing. Then figure out if he can raise the money fast enough for it to be a goal and not a fantasy for him to do that with the boat.
Next, I would come to the decision on whether to keep the boat he has or trade it for something more practical, or sell it outright and have money to pay off the tickets or whatever it is that has his license to drive jacked up. Remember he said something about that too. If he cannot afford to put the boat into tip top racing condition it needs to be sold or traded, and the trade would have to be for something worthwhile, either a live aboard, or a car or pick up, or something that would give him either shelter or transportation or something that is of lasting benefit.
Third and not at all least, I would have to sit down and come up with a workable plan to feed, clothe, and shelter myself, because real men do not bum off of family for prolonged periods of time, they work, and pay their own way. I would not go to sea with a man who is not more than just willing to work, but who has proven himself willing, ready, able and above all capable of doing work to earn a living. I just feel that there is no reason not to pursue your dreams, but dreams and goals are different from fantasies.
I am not trying to be cruel about it, but instead I would like to give this young man the kind of grip by the collar and good firm shaking about that my father and grandfather gave me when I put my head up my arse as a young man a few times. Later on I saw the wisdom of what they were teaching me, and I did the same with the kids I raised, gentle and kind are not always the loving thing to do, sometimes a good boot in the pants is more loving than a hug.
It is good to learn from your mistakes, but much better to learn from the mistakes of others...