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hi everyone. i have a question. my boyfriend and i are going to be sailing around the pacific after winter here in california. im scared. ive never done anything like this before and im scared of the weather, being days, weeks away from land, sharks(i know it not logical), and lots of other things.
no one talks about being scared their first time! am i the only one?
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Are you the only one? No. this is what keeps many people from making a trip like you describe.
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Heck, i was scared the first few times i anchored out and was going to sleep thinking that if the boat started to sink, i wouldnt know and would be trapped inside. Like anything else, you get used to it. Besides, being scared isnt so bad, what is really the pits is letting your fear control you. Go for it and have a ball. You will be living everyone elses dream. have a great life.
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I am primarily a coastal sailor, and I have been sailing for six years. I single hand a lot and I am scared all the time. That doesn''t mean its a bad thing. Its very important to know your limits and the limits that your boat has. The boats limit far exceeds my limits and everytime I go out I learn something new and my experience is enhanced and my fear is controlled. Being scared is normal, but I never let it get out of hand. I deal with whatever comes my way the best way I can and I use my fear as a means of decision making. I have heard that coastal sailing is harder than offshore sailing, I really don''t know about this, but coastal sailing is a great teacher to prepare you for the offshore. So be scared and enjoy the learning, you will be surprised as to how much you can really do. Take it slow and in small steps and have fun. A friend of mine said to me that we have pleasure boats and it is not pleasurable to purposely go out when the weather is rough or there is heavy fog. Better to stay put and enjoy the wait.
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When I was fourteen, I was standing my first night watch on a sail across the Bay of Fundy from Maine to Nova Scotia. It was very dark. The tide changed and soon these waves were popping up out of nowwhere all over the place (that''ll happen up there when the wind is against the tide). In the dark, it seemed like these murky brown-green waves were towering over the cockpit of our little 23'' trailer sailer (they were probably no bigger than about 4 feet). I was convinced that the Bermuda Triangle was no where near Bermuda, but was right there in the Bay of Fundy!

I still love sailing.

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I was not scared the first times I went out, but that''s because I''m an idiot. You see, once I had time to get my eyes opened, I got scared. Then I got better prepared and made better plans and learned what "Small Craft Warnings" meant.

Now, it''s still a little spooky sometimes, and it can still be scary. But so what? Love is scary but we mostly do it anyway. What really scares me is the thought of staying home and growing old realizing I didn''t even try.
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I have crewed with people that get very scared even in relatively moderate conditions.(20+ Knots and a small sea) But when were racing no one seems to get scared, their so focused on the task at hand.(until we pop the chute in 35 knots) then everyone’s shaking.
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wasn''''t anyone scared?

Sometimes the scariest part in a cruise such as yours is the isolation that you will experience.
Days on end with just you, your boat, and your shipmates.
That being said, I''m sure you will enjoy it.
Sailing the Pacific, thats the experience of a lifetime that few sailors get to enjoy.
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I recently read an article written by a sea going captain of some 30 years. It was written on the eve of a regular trip, one he had made many times before. The writer lamented how before every trip he was scared. How the night before every trip was sleepless and filled with doubt. It was not until he was aboard and on his way that his confidences grew based on his known ability. It is wise to be concerned but unwise not to be prepared.

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It scares me every time I have to back my van, with its obstructed vision, out of a parking space at the mall. Fear is a normal part of life, whether you spend your life on land or at sea. Fear is good to the extent that it causes you to take reasonable precautions to ensure a good outcome. It''s bad if it prevents you from enjoying reasonably safe and rewarding life experiences. Sailors minimize risk by careful planning, and anticipating all the possibilities. Prepare carefully and enjoy the beauty of this sport.
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