Originally Posted by sailnaway
I ask them to pay nothing but to supply their own food drinks ECT. I paid the tab for marinas fuel and all other cost. It took two months to ready the yacht for this trip. Lots of planning and making sure that everything was in as good of shape as it could be to ensure the crews safety which is a captain’s duty. This was to be a working learning cruise not a pleasure cruise and that was set in stone from the” get go”. I sail like people walk in the park I am very forgiving due to my ability to sail single handed and the only thing that got on edge was me having to check our course every two hours for a month. No sleep will do that to you and finding people off course by several miles over and over was a safety issue which as the captain I had to address. Oh and the missing $400 was a real drag, I am not pointing any finger at anyone but it did not walk off the boat buy its self. For the most part they were ok but if you have a problem with something you speak up that’s what a crew is suppose to do not hide feelings. It was my job to teach them seaman ship not baby sit them. A captain that becomes lax in his authority soon looses control of his crew. As far as all this Captains liscence crap I have seen so many captains with a certificate that could not sail out of a harbor let alone cross an ocean that it makes me sick. Captain’s liscence should only be given to experienced captains not computer junkies. And I would like to say that respect for the captain is part of seamanship. In closing the thing to do would be to have waited till I returned to the boat before departing. If the waited ten minutes more it would not have been a big deal. I was one hundred yards from the boat walking as fast as in could in 100 + temperatures when they rolled past me in a cab. So between the 38 year old smoker huffing two packs a day and missing money and doing without my favorite cruising juices I think they had it easy Could have raised all kinds of hell but I let it slide since the three of them were not well suited for each other I figured why make it worse. So if you tell someone it’s a working cruise and they don't work well I guess that makes you a grouchy old man. I sail like a true sailor I keep to tradition when I can and so if you need a contract bugger off mate. I have no use for whining even if I do my share of it that ticks me off to. So the sea is my home, don’t pollute it with your legal crap. Be a sailor not a lawyer.
First off, it doesn't sound like you did a whole lot of teaching of seamanship. If you're planning and preparation took two months, then why did you not have the proper supplies of drinks in store? And if it was their duty to supply their own food and drink....why didn't you make sure they did so... after all—you were the captain.
It also sounds like you were too gutless to confront them, regardless of what kind of face you put on your actions right now. Even if they weren't being paid, or paying to crew aboard your ship, preparation for a 30-day working voyage is not something that they sound like they were able to properly plan for... and apparently you gave them no such assistance in that area. If they were responsible for their own food and drinks, taking yours is nothing less than theft... as is the missing money.
It doesn't really sound like the crew had any respect for you...and given your whining about the way the cruise turned out, I'm not completely surprised. You say you have no use for whining, but isn't that exactly what your original post is all about...
Before I am sailing with anyone new, even if for just a day, I make sure to meet them first—or they have to have someone I trust vouch for them. I also make sure to find out if they have any specific food allergies, dietary requirements, or preferences if I can. This goes a long way to making sure that the meals are at least going to be shared, and that they do not starve. It also goes a long way to weeding out the riff-raff and the slackers.
I also have a very strict no-smoking policy aboard my boat. If they smoke, they're not welcome to do so aboard. Even my friends who do smoke, respect me enough to abide by my policy, and do not light up on-board.
I generally will provide food and drinks for my crew, while aboard the boat. Off the boat, they're on their own. If they have a preference, and haven't voiced it prior to the trip...and don't like the selection of drinks and food...well, then they're on their own again. I give them every opportunity to do so...and if they don't—that's their own fault, and they have to pay the price for it.
My boat is far too small for me to put up with crap from anyone on...and I don't. It is MY BOAT...so it goes by MY RULES.