I will give a different angle on it, just something to think about.
The first time I took my wife sailing, actually it was our first date; it was a nasty, nasty day. Winds gusting up in the 30+-knot range, choppy, sloppy water, spay in the face type day.
We were sailing our old Cal 25II, I flew a 110 Jib only and we were romping through the chop at 6.5knots. Believe me it was a nasty ass day. If it were not for the fact that I was trying to impress this girl on our first date, I probably would not have gone out that day.
Anyway, she got to see sailing at its worst. I showed her how to we could be on the edge, but yet there were things we could do to control the situation. She had a blast and she learned what the boat could handle.
Ever since than, she won't go out unless we are moving at least 5.5 knots. No easy going day sailing for this girl. If we are not moving along, we turn back in and wait for the wind to blow. (Well sometimes we anchor off the beach)
Take her out on a nasty day and show her how much the boat can handle. Chances are, when its nice and calm and blowing 10 - 15, she will be not nearly as uncomfortable.
(I told you I had a different perspective on it)
Courtney is My Hero
If a man is to be obsessed by something, I suppose a boat is as good as anything, perhaps a bit better than most - E.B. White