Join Date: Feb 2000
Location: Annapolis, Md
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As a racing sailor who loves to cruise, or is it a cruising sailor who loves to race, I would like to make a couple suggestions that might help if you end up combining your lives for the long haul. (Of course this does not work with the more extreme 'Type A' racers, only those with a bit of Typee in their souls.)
-Get a cruisable boat that is responsive and offers decent preformance.
-Keep a decent sail inventory aboard and let him use it.
-Don't freak out if he spends a large part of his time adjusting and tweaking even when there aren't other boats around.
-Let him calibrate the instruments.
-He will want to make tactical decisions (as in, 'The tide is about to change, lets stay in shallow water until slack tide and then move into deeper water to catch the favorable current'.) Let him but ask him to explain his thinking so you don't feel like he is sailing arbitrary courses.
-Be willing to sail into the outer edges of what cruisers would consider good sailing weather (meaning into lighter and heavier winds) before you crank the engine. If he is a good racer, he will be willing to make sail changes and trim the sails to keep the boat up to speed in the light stuff and balance things out in the heavier going.
-Be willing to sail into challenging locations rather than drop sails and motor in.
-Race occasionally with him so you can see how well he plays with others, but also to keep your trimming skills up so you can become a part of the performance team.
-Even racers come home and crash at the end of the day. If he gets to push the boat hard all day, he will be more ready to crash and unwind watching the sunset at the end of the day.