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Ligal, I am not joking now.
Let me tell you that in my case, its quite easy, as my wife loves sailing, and altough she prefers we cruise in relax mode, she knows that it is my job to sail the boat, and doesn't care how I do it. Now having this said, she doesn't really mind if I am trying to beat another boat or not, as long as she is confortable and I don't call her to help me. (once she has asked me who I was racing against, because there was no boat in sight, I was trying to bat my own record time on that particular leg, so in the end...I still race against my self). (thanks SD!!)
Truth is my son Fred, we could say a sailor also, does help me with trim and is excellent at keeping heading and apparent wind, so my wife can have her time.
However, note, that if conditions so justify, I will motor or reef to provide her the maximum confort. She has to deal with our little bugger, 16 month Luis, so we kind share the shores.
Again, its a compromise, and there is time to sit, and drink her "Caipirinhas", as well as there is time to play with the other boats...balance and compromise are in my opinion key factor to a satisfactory relationship in a sailboat...I know if I boss around, aor don't make her happy she will not want to come with me.
I am blessed by having a wife like that.
Last edited by Giulietta; 08-06-2007 at 11:23 PM.