Denise - When I first did the trip (without
GPS, etc), we were inexperienced cruisers and not that experienced steering
compass courses so we stayed in the shipping channel. 32 years later and with a few more miles under my keel, I've learned to trust my instruments (your
compass HAS been zeroed, right?) and I'll steer what makes sense.
Thus, if I were to do the trip today, I'd stay out of the channel if the tide was foul and in the channel if it favored me. There are a number of great, inexpensive laptop tide and nav programs out there so this is really easy to do (tip: look at your
GPS speed and compare with your calibrated knotmeter. If the GPS speed is greater, the current is with you. If not, it's foul).
We sail the MD Governor's cup each year (84 NM from Annapolis to St. Mary's City, MD). The route is much more scenic but basically the same trip. Skinny in the North and fat in the South with a current to deal with. If you click on the link to our Google track in the following link, you can see that we favored the Chesapeake's western shore during the flood and in center channel during ebb. We confirmed whether we were being helped or hindered through GPS/knotmeter comparison.
2009 MD Governor’s Cup (31 July - 01 August 2009)
Regarding sailing vs. motoring... in August the decision is usually made for you... you motor. On the other hand, after we (stupidly) tried to
anchor of the power plant and lost our
anchor we sailed all night long through to Cape May.
Bottom
Line: Sail if you can and motor if you must. Either way, I wouldn't enter Cape May at night unless it's absolutely unavoidable (general rule for any unfamiliar harbor, but there are crab pots, commercial traffic, etc.).
As for Barnegate Inlet... ummmmm don't go unless you follow someone who really
knows the inlet (i.e., Coast Guard).
BUT. Generally don't follow people; when I was a kid, we almost hit a sandbar and we followed a 40' powerboat through OC NJ's inlet. She grounded and eventually broke up. Better to make your own mistakes than to follow someone else's! OC NJ, Atlantic City, & Manasquan are good alternatives, IMO.