warning, warning. Wife's never been on a sailboat? Literally?
I suggest lessons and soon...... It is very common that one's first experience is not the calm, serene, glide into the sunset that they imagine. Waves, confusion with lines and point of sail, head down in cockpit looking for one of those lines causing motion sickness, etc. Usually goes away quickly as they settle down and get comfortable, but that experience probably shouldn't be on your big new investment. Get past it before you buy, unless you're both good with you sailing alone.
Fortunately, I've been in that kind of scenario before. Wife thinking she knew more about it than I did, though she was from Idaho and had never been on a boat. Well, after that debacle ended I realized that if I wanted to bring dates on romantic sails, I'd better learn to single-hand, and the sweet young things offer "to help" was met with, "Honey, you just sit there and drink that cocktail while I take care of this boat". 5 years of practice, with lots of solo sailing, and I got good enough that there were never any "exciting" moments, with the boat that is. My present wife has now been with me 9 years, actually trusts me to be able to do what needs to be done but is still eager to help if I ask. I'll still take it very slowly and carefully, though the idea of lessons, or at least the renting of a small laser or somesuch, with several spills to get her over the "heeling fear" will go a long way.
I taught her to drive a car with no problems, hopefully teaching her to sail will go as smoothly. Patience, caution, and "NO SHOUTING" are my primary methods of instruction. Any other advice along those lines is appreciated! I've got "Small Boat Sailor's Bible" and "Invitation to Sailing", books I've had for many years, that I show her, read aloud from, and ask questions from and she's been game for. Hey, she already knows what "boom vang". "topping lift", and "lazy jacks" are and what they are for! She's certainly impressed me with her eagerness to learn.
This process of finding a boat has been up and down though. I think she's been amused at the whole thing. One boat I looked at 5 times, once just standing on the dock and staring at the boat, (and finding several things I'd missed on earlier inspections!). I think she wonders about my sanity.
Tomorrow we are going to look at an Allied SeaWind II, next week possibly an S2 11.0A, and in May when we go to the Keys, it'll be a road trip of boat views, with at least 4 to look at. I think she suspects rightly, I am going crazy!