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captain kicked me of boat!

so i replied to a captains post about needing crew for crossing atlantic.
i met him in lelystad, netherlands, covered my jobs, my experience iv had sailing, and all is good.

5 days later we stop in Ijmuden, netherlands, and out of the blue says he wants me of boat because he thinks i wont be useful.

im pretty upset at the moment, i was so excited about this, i even sent out postcards.
its very frustrating that he agree's to take me on, then changes his mind.
i even rejected one offer to take this one.

has anyone else had experience with this sort of thing?

im a compitent sailor, he didnt even give me a chance to prove it.

on that note, does anyone know which ports/marina's are good for finding boats crossing atlantic?
i heard Gibraltar is a good one.


thank you for any advice, have a lovely day.
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Not enough information to make any useful comment. Maybe the captain is a flake? Maybe you are a person that becomes intolerable to be around after a couple days? It is hard for you to know since he didn't give you any real feedback.

I would suggest that after you are no longer angry, and the captain has returned, send him an email. In this email..
- Be polite
- Let him know that you were disappointed by his decision
- Ask him, (politely and with respect) what caused him to change his mind between the time that he took you on initially, and when he let you go.

If the guy has any credibility, he will answer the questions and you may learn something. If he doesn't, then you aren't out anything from the effort.

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Sorry to hear that. Chalk it up and move on without any hard feeling. Don't bother to analyze it if he hadn't given you a reason.

Having said that, sailing a boat across the pond in the tight quarter is not a small task. Age, personality, education level, personal habit, skills and etc are all important. He does not like you to sail with him, it does not mean you are a bad person.

Just find another captain, and keep on leaning. Good luck.


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thanksyou for the replies

i have sent him an email, (respectful, but somwhat blunt) as to why.

looking back, on those few days we were out, i was as helpful as could be, but prehaps not as cherpy/happy/bubbly as can be.

oh well
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You're probably actually lucky... these kinds of situations need to be sorted out before there's 'no point of return'.

Regardless of the source or reason for either party's dissatisfaction, leaving port on an extended leg with any question marks has a potential for disaster. It would likely have been a situation that deteriorated over time.

Not judging either of you; simply saying that better now when you are able to 'step off' than later when the only option is to be thrown off!!

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when the only option is to be thrown off!!
Just wondering how many times did you threw someone overboard.


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Better there than being dropped off in the Azores.
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You made less than 100 miles in 5 days. In fact, over land, you could be back where you started in under an hour. Count your blessings that the captain made the decision when he did.

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