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Invites to friends/confused expectations.

This has happened a few times now.
We have a Dock Party, when I send out the invites I make it clear to bring certain things, If it's wine and cheese or if it's Margarita themed. types of food or snacks to bring, etc.

The problem; wine and cheese party , None bring wine. some just brought "whatever' disregarding the theme of the invite.

Margarita themed dock party, last time.. 5 people brought mix.. but NO tequila, Although salsa and chips seemed to be the only thing many brought.

Do other boat owners have the same difficulty when having a party or outing?
most people want to bring something, but it seems the "friends" that have come out to a party or sail just expect me to cater the whole thing. Now if that were my intent I would say so.

I love to entertain but like most people these days I can't afford to provide everything... what to do what to do? get new friends? Be VERY specific? and s p e l l out the needs of the party? Gad.. it's not rocket science.
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Sailors are cheap, so are chips and mixes... see a pattern?

How about $5.00 each for the bar use and you keep any leftovers? You could also get a few stick-on tags for the ones that pay, that say, "I'm not a cheapskate, I paid." Of course, some would be proud that they aren't wearing a tag.

This has to be a common problem. Maybe someone has an answer.
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You own a "yacht", you belong to a "yacht club" of course your non-boating friends expect you to cater. Either be more specific, (Margarita Party, we supply lime wedges and plastic glasses, BYOB) or just invite other boaters, they'll either bring something or reciprocate, probably both.
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Hm, the theme from your experience with themes seems to be that people don't bring alcohol when requested. The part of my brain that handles etiquette basically cannot process this problem at all, sorry.

Maybe get one or two of your really close friends who can handle the explanation, explain it to them, and hope your other friends figure it out by osmosis?

Alternatively, encourage a rotating hosting schedule. Good hosts make good guests.
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You own a "yacht", you belong to a "yacht club" of course your non-boating friends expect you to cater.
Good point. Trade your boat in for something smaller and dirtier
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Have a scruffy looking boat and meet your guests with their own sponges and buckets of soapy water.... Heh heh heh...

But if you make your party a potluck... check who is bringing the entrees and who is bringing the side dishes. Then go from there.
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Always...always....specify if it is to be BYOB or alcohol provided. If you're throwing the party, it's expected that you will be providing at least basic snacks and munchies, plates, plasticware, cups, ice, napkins and a place to party. Anything else needs to be communicated in the invite:

BYOB
Cash Bar
Keg
$5 per person for open bar
Mixers provided for your alcohol
Please bring food (side item, finger food)

etc......
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Hi Denise,

Short of getting new friends..I think there's a couple of things that you can do:

If you're willing to do the shopping...just collect money from each attendee.

You might get people who don't drink..ask "why should I pay for alcohol"..
In that case...tell everyone to bring the alcoholic beverages of their choice..otherwise only soft drinks will be provided....then charge for the food and mixers.
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