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post #51 of 79 Old 10-18-2011
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get rid of the wife

When my first wife demanded I sell the boat it was very telling. After 23 years she obviously didn't know me very well.

She is gone the boat is still here and my new wife loves to sail more than I do! Divorce after 23 years costs a pretty penny but looking back well worth the change. Life is to short to spend it with a woman with no sea legs!
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When my first wife demanded I sell the boat it was very telling. After 23 years she obviously didn't know me very well.

She is gone the boat is still here and my new wife loves to sail more than I do! Divorce after 23 years costs a pretty penny but looking back well worth the change. Life is to short to spend it with a woman with no sea legs!
This is hardly the first example of excessive bravado on an Internet message board. Everyone has their priorities, but sailing to me is just a hobby. I love my wife more than my boat, and my choice would be the opposite of yours, if this was all about the boat as you suggest. But something tells me there must have been other problems besides the boat.


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Late to this discussion, but you've gotten some good advice... Basically sometimes you just have to take the time to gradually allow someone to adjust to the conditions out there.

We often turned back in the early days if conditions were such that she was uncomfortable.. patience and understanding worked eventually - it was the first week long cruise at the end of our first summer (on a skinny little 24 footer) that really turned her around.

Unfortunately I don't think your sailing area is that kind of environment..
Did the same and its good advice. Whenever we went out early in the piece I'd always keep an eye on the Wombet and if I saw her looking a little concerned we'd just turn around.

End result ... we sailed up to the lake saw plus 35, did the race saw plus 30 and saw plus 30 coming home ... the Wombet ? Didin't bat an eyelid.

What I find interesting though is the OP's talk of 50'ers. The problem occurred on a 30'er which is likely to be a tad twitchy after all .... chances are something early 40s would be quite suitable and overcome the problems. 50' just seems like overkill.

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Well' here is a picture of my wife sailing. Need I say more.
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Well, it seems that she wants the boat stopped and is there to prevent you to sail it?

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Wait..... Your wives have actually seen your boats? Is that normal?

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So the wife doesn't want to get out of sailing. She wants to look at a 35 ft Beneteau and wonders if that will be a smoother sailing boat. I also wonder if i can still easily singlehand it like I can this one.

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Hmmmm . . . when I was in the cardiac ICU having "pauses," and losing consciousness she hung on to my hand and said "You can't die! I don't know how to back the boat!"

True story.

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Comparing: SANTANA 30 sailboat on sailboatdata.com
to, say a Bene 361 (they do not make a 35' it seems): BENETEAU 361 sailboat on sailboatdata.com
on paper is not so easy. Best to get on board different boats and see how they feel.
Contrast to something like this older Ketch: SEAWIND MK II KETCH (ALLIED) sailboat on sailboatdata.com

Lots of stuff to think about here.

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