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Selling a boat - an emotional experience

I sold my booat last week

not the slug yet but a 15 foot coble I built myself and used as a family dayboat come camping trailer

The boat features in lots of family holiday pictures with children growing from gawky adolescents to people on the verge of adulthood

while jill and I got greyer and wrinklier.

I was really sad when I saw the boat dissapear up the road behind another man's car. A slice of my life went with it.

the night before I picked up the Minstrel - a 23 foot trailer sailer - I could not raise the owner (who had owned the boat for fifteen years) on the phone to check he had received the money

he and his wife were having their last evening in the cockpit while the boat was sitting in the drive outside their house.

Boats are so much more than just a collection of curiously shaped bits of wood, plastic, steel and sailcloth

I was sad to see Bede go and the bloke who sold me the Minstrel was sad to see his boat go.



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I agree with your sentiments. The old saw about "the two happiest days of a boat owner..." never rang true to me. I never sold a boat that I didn't feel sad about saying goodbye.
I can contrast that with quite a few cars that I was really happy to unload.
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I agree with your sentiments. The old saw about "the two happiest days of a boat owner..." never rang true to me. I never sold a boat that I didn't feel sad about saying goodbye.
I can contrast that with quite a few cars that I was really happy to unload.


I had never understood that phrase - it seems hard hearted to me

always regretted losing every boat

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I didn't understand the saying either.... the day I bought mine I was nervous, exited, apprehensive, scared, and while working on her bringing her back from a musty old scow to a nice boat some days I could have set fire to her and other days I wanted to hug her.. now that she's done, how could I ever sell her?? I'm too attached now. I don't even want to think about watching her going down the road to someone else.
just one boat in a lifetime

makes me feel like a marine tart

14 and still counting

I think you need to change boats as your needs change

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Well said dylan
Indeed.. nearly 8 years ago we sold a boat, one that will probably be my forever-favourite. We sold it to good acquaintances, the negotiations were extremely easy and civil, surveyed well, and I was totally unprepared for the emotional hit as we watched it being sailed away... We'd had 12 good years, poured countless hours and effort into updating and maintaining her (and as a result sold for pretty much what we'd paid 12 yrs earlier) it was very difficult watching her disappear.

We're back there now, considering making another change and I feel like a judas even considering selling this one.. go figure.
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I posted on this subject here: Bittersweet back in March.

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"It was five years ago – almost to the day – that I first set foot on Northern Lights.

"I had been on a sailboat before, but I had never sailed. I had spent a lot of time on dive boats, looking across the water at those beautiful craft and fantasizing about, one day, joining that fraternity of mariners who relied on their skills in reading and riding the wind; not just goosing the throttle and turning the wheel. Now I was standing on the deck of what was to become my boat.

"Northern Lights is a 26’ sloop-rigged Nash. When I met her she was braced high in her cradle. Her sails and rigging were stowed for the winter. She looked forlorn and dreary as yachts do when on the hard. But, through the clutter and bleakness of winter storage, Northern Lights beauty shone through.

"I learned to sail on Northern Lights. She has a simple rig – not much in the way of fine sail trim adjustments. But I pushed her and she pushed back, and through it all she kept me safe. We journeyed together each summer: many miles of water passed under her keel. Finding secret hideaways and savouring our solitude, or rafting up with friends. Special times - anniversaries; birthdays – were celebrated; sunsets watched; stars counted; dreams revealed and realized. And fun! Lot’s of fun.

"Northern Lights introduced me to a passion that will be with me for the rest of my life.

"The desire to challenge ourselves is, I believe, a basic human trait. Once we have attained a level of comfort most of us strive to push forward, to reach the next plateau. So it is with me. I came to the decision that I was ready to learn new things, face new challenges, to hone the skills that I have developed in the years since I stepped aboard Northern Lights. With that in mind, we, my wife and I, came to the hard decision that we will be purchasing a larger boat.

"We have found, what we think a boat that will be suitable to our needs: combining the comfort of Northern Lights, with the seaworthiness and fine control that I am now ready for.

"We have put a conditional offer in, paid the deposit and booked the survey. Unless there is something amiss with the surveyors’ findings it should be a done deal.

"We are very excited about the prospect of the new boat, but this is tempered by what we know will be a sadness at the loss of our dear friend.

"My wish is that Northern Lights will provide the same joy and safe-passages to whoever is lucky enough to acquire her.

"Fair winds."
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GREAT POST! I have never sold a boat...sold a few cars I LOVED and the last one I sold was a 1999 Carrera 4 that I did SOOOOO much customization from tires to interior that when it drove away with a new owner, I almost cried. Now my boat...LOVE IT...had it less than a year and didn't speak to the wife for a week when she "insinuated" we sell the boat and look for something else...

The previous owners of my boat are friends of ours. The only reason they sold a Santana 30 for DIRT CHEAP was because they found a Santana 35 for DIRT CHEAP. The economy was bad and deals were easy to find if you had the cash. So we bought the boat. Problem is the S35 is not ready to sail. Needs some work. My S30 is pretty much sorted and bulletproof. So while I am sailing 3 times a week, they are seeing me use their old boat. It must be hard. I have taken them out a few times, but that must be hard as well. I would HATE it if some guy drove up in my Porsche and said, "Wanna go for a spin?"...especially when their new boat isn't ready to sail yet.

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...The old saw about "the two happiest days of a boat owner..." never rang true to me..
Shortly after I bought my first boat two months ago, my wife and I went to a party. As we were leaving, someone said something to me about my new purchase, and another lady nearby, whom I didn't know, said, "I'm so sorry... you know what they say about the two happiest days in a boat owner's life."

I said, "No no, it's a sailboat."

She said, "Oh, well then congratulations!"
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I had to sell my last Cat 36 due to a divorce. This is the boat I had lived on and poured my heart (as well as blood & skin) into upgrading. I swear the day I took the buyer out for the seatrial it was the most magnificent sailing day I've ever had. The wind was perfect, the boat just danced, I was heartbroken. When I recovered financially, I went shopping to replace her. Opening the hatch of my current Cat 36, I was home again. Even the upholstery was identical. I said, "Wow, it's Deja Vu". And so, she is. They'll bury me in this boat.

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