Back to New Jersey. I found the many of the marinas were horrible. The tidal currents were not as strong as Jersey but it is understandable where the name came from. It would be very easy to find yourself pinned against the dock by massive 5-6 knot current. I did not see any mooring balls anywhere. Anchor? I'd hope to catch some mud but I'd be worried the bottom would be scoured clean of good holding. In my case I was pinned against the dock and told to move. It was do-able, but I needed help. I asked a fellow on the dock to help me with a spring line and the idiot released it early and scratched the hell out of my boat. That was when I learned to tell marina workers to go to hell when they wanted to force me to move in a bad situation. And I learned not to trust strangers, no matter how many times I brief them on docking and spring line procedures. I'd rather have someone competent over a stranger who is pretending to be knowledgeable. As for dock workers, I'm an easy going guy, but sometimes it pays to blow a fuse and go postal on people who ask you to do stupid things.
New Jersey is not a place I'd plan to visit ever. I even avoid going into Cape May now too when traveling through. I typically sail up the coast or over to Block Island from the mouth of the Delaware without stopping or the other way, up the Delaware to the C&D canal and stop at that restaurant on the other side. It is not a bad trip 31 hours or so from Block Island to Lewes Delaware--a place I've anchored but had a hard time finding a spot. The ice breakers need to be avoided.
If the wind is light, I have hugged Cape May to save a few miles, although once we picked up a thousand flys and spend hours killing them. I won;t do that again. And I saw the biggest shark I've ever seen breach right there at the end of Cape May--15' or so. That has to be a feeding ground for Great Whites.
So in my opinion I'd avoid New Jersey completely. The trip up the coast is a long and tedious, but not bad or difficult. It does get foggy at times. I would pick a good departure weather window and bring a couple of extra people. If the wind is light motor to keep your speed up and don't stop unless you need to heave to to rest. There is no reason to rush or to stop. The coast of New Jersey is easy sailing compared to the Delaware Bay with all it's shippin- Night Salior
With all due respect to your comments, and obviously you have good professional qualifications and are entitled to your opinion, I find this is an inaccurate judgement
1- Inlets in any ocean to back bay estuary need to be treated with utmost respect . The four best inlets we have discussed here are no worse than any inlets in NC, Mass, or Maine when they are entered at running tides and nasty weather.
2- Not to sure about your statement about NJ marinias...you must have encountered all the bad ones. There are many nice marinas in NJ and if you need a list I could give them to you. It is no different from Conneticut where you are from. There are cities in Coinnecticut which look abandoned as they do in NJ and there are also noice places. May you just didnt know where to look.
3- Cape May is a very beautiful town with many many good restaurants. Mmore winners of the James Beard award in chefs concentrated there than any other place in the United States/ Nice shops...beautiful beaches...Victorian homes. Maybe you confused this with one of those towns in England?
Sometimes when you are a visior and dont know where to look you impressions can be formed by only what you see with your eyes and if you fail to look further it becomes you reality. If you ever visit New Jersey again ( which you seem so dead against) feel free to e mail me and maybe I can enlighten you to some of the noice places to visit and see in New Jersey.