Your life is entirely up to you. Sorry, jack, but it IS what you make it. It is NOT what you do with the things that come your way, it is making your OWN way despite of the things that come at you, and taking advantage where you can, ...and MAKING advantage where you can't.
I'd be happy trade "my life has been harder than yours" creds, but it really doesn't matter- success is a choice, no matter what tax bracket you were born into. So is accepting a lack of success.
Success isn't all about money- it is all about not having to offer excuses or explanations for where you are at, and how you got there.
Yeah, I know, I know, the economy has been hit hard and there are no jobs and the wrong guy is president and yadda yadda yadda... but some folks still got rich, and some folks still made the decision to live life on their own terms...maybe because they focused on looking for the opportunities to succeed, not wasting time and energy finding excuses for NOT succeeding.
that just sounds all good and wonderful but what you are saying is that the circumstances and conditions of life have nothing to do with what is possible. so, by your world view, it is absolutely possible for a paraplegic to get up and compete, and win, in the 100 yd dash. and, although i have no wings, if i really try hard enough, i can go out and climb up on my roof, jump off, and fly to florida for the winter.
that's not reality. you show me someone who had it hard but rose out of it and i will show you someone who had an opportunity.
to use a real life example, not that the paraplegic example wasn't real life, i will use my mom's boyfriend, Jim.
he had been having trouble breathing for several years. despite constantly seeking medical help, he was told he was in perfect health, despite the fact that he was having trouble breathing.
around june of last year, a dr finally figured out what the cause was. he had lung cancer. it was keeping him from filling his lungs. despite a number of other x-rays, no on had found it previously.
jim fought hard and pushed his doctors. he had surgery and kemo. they discovered the cancer had spread to other parts of the body right after they finally discovered his cancer.
he was told, if he got through all of the kemo and reduced the original cancer enough and got the rest of the cancer stopped they would use a cyberknife to cut out the cancer in his lungs. it was his only chance.
after suffering and struggling through all of the treatments, he had met the requirements for the cyberknife. one week later he drowned on his own blood, in the hospital. in the time it took them to schedule the cyberkife, the original cancer, in his lungs had suddenly grown exponentially. and, mysteriously, the other cancers had popped up all over his body....despite the 'success' of his treatment.
now, Jim fought hard to live. he did everything possible. but he died just on the ede of getting the proceedure that was supposed to save him.
so, by your world view, Jim must have been a screw up and didn't try hard enough or he'd not be dead. because the circumstances and conditions of life do not matter. life is what you make it, regardless of the circumstances. and paraplegics are obviously just loosers that don't try hard enough, or they'd be able to walk. life is what you make it.
and that's why, if you are worthy and try hard enough, you can sail your boat straight into the wind. because the conditions and circumstances of life don't matter. life is what you make it. sure it is.
your life is never entirely up to you. you and your life and the path of that life are constantly being affected and altered, limited and liberated, by all kinds of influences outside of yourself. it is never completely up to you. it is never without conditions. it is never without limitations. ask any paraplegic if his life is completely up to him. ask the guy that had to have his legs amputated because of a drunk driver if his life has been completely up to him.
do you think that the people who have to live with these things, are limited and controlled by these things, or even die because of these things choose that for themselves?
according to your post, you must. because " life is completely up to you."