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Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

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I can understand his response. Courteous is calling the night before sea trial to tell the seller you're not interested. Cowardly and discourteous is backing out by email on the day of sea trial.

I just couldnt do it. Thank you for re-informing me of my decision.
Everyone makes mistakes and Im GLAD you pointed them out for me as I didnt see my wrongdoing.

I will have to live with my decision, It just wasnt meant to be at the last moment in time.
besides
He gained his money and i lost/ gained nothing.
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How did he gain his money?
did you forfeit a deposit.
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Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

Cowardly is a bit strong, but a phone call would have been more courteous. Not everyone carries their email on their belt.
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Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

It amy be strong, but it may not be wrong. Nobody ever emails somebody local when the deal is hot and they don't want it to get away. My experince has been that one only emails when one is delivering bad news or wants to avoid confrontation.

Come on, have you ever called your boss when you are faking sick, or would you rather text or email your excuse?
You don't do that because you WANT to talk to him/her, right?
I'm not saying jay is a bad guy, I am saying that blowing a seller off by email isn't a classy move.

Sindney, you're right, "There's not much worse than you can call a man than a coward"...and there's not much worse that one man can do for another man than to let cowardice go unremarked. Civilizations fail when failures of civility are ignored. I think Mike Brady said that...or he should have.

Good men sometimes unwittingly do cowardly things, and it is up to other good men to point them out so that they don't do them again. Mike Brady might have said that too.
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Cowardly, how?
you're making mountains out of molehills methinks, sidney.
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I can understand his response. Courteous is calling the night before sea trial to tell the seller you're not interested. Cowardly and discourteous is backing out by email on the day of sea trial.
bl - it's none of your business. It's a transaction. If someone wants to walk they walk. Happens all the time. Again, it's none of your business.

Yet you call this newb a coward.

You asked in Welsh's thread why everyone was cool with name-calling, etc. Have you noticed the pattern yet? Let me help. You come in...start beating people down...things go south. What gives you the right to call someone a coward? Are you really all that?

Let me clarify the issue a bit more with an analogy from a former GBCW user who seemed to have a similar attitude...

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I am used to respect.

I have an IQ far above Mensa requirements and my brain needs to work.
Maybe give that brain a little vacation.

Hey, I'm just being honest.

(PS - If you want to know how to do it "right" - look at Minne's post after yours. You don't seem to get it.)
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Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

Smacky, thanks for your input.
Before this pile gets any higher or more odiferous, let's clarify- I did not call the OP a coward, as has been alleged- I said IMO, that the act of emailing the day of sea trial is discourteous and cowardly. Brave men sometimes do cowardly things.



I didn't "beat the OP down." I wrote two lines. If that's a beat down, then I apparently have more power with a keyboard than anyone ever suspected.



Is it "none of my business"? Maybe bad form and bad practices going unremarked is what causes some, especially newbies, to become known, as Minne puts it, as a "bad buyer" and since this a forum for advice, I offer mine, because I DON'T want this newbie to end up losing a boat he really wants because he inadvertently pisses a seller off.



I've got no problem with honesty, Smack. Here's some right back at you- Some old hands here are concerned with retaining newbies- do you think that this kind of thread hijacking and infighting helps?
Next time, feel free to send me a pm on how to improve my style, instead of further derailing a thread.
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I've got no problem with honesty, Smack. Here's some right back at you- Some old hands here are concerned with retaining newbies- do you think that this kind of thread hijacking and infighting helps?
Next time, feel free to send me a pm on how to improve my style, instead of further derailing a thread.
I don't do PMs, especially on this kind of thing. And that's for exactly the reason you mention above. If not-entirely-deserving newbs are getting hammered on by a long-time member here, it's good for those newbs to know that other long-time members (not just mods) have their backs to some degree. That kind of "hijacking" and "infighting" absolutely helps. Otherwise a place becomes a clique. And who wants that?

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Before this pile gets any higher or more odiferous, let's clarify- I did not call the OP a coward, as has been alleged- I said IMO, that the act of emailing the day of sea trial is discourteous and cowardly.
No one took it the way you're now trying to spin it (look at the posts above). So maybe you need to work on your delivery. To wit...

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Is it "none of my business"? Maybe bad form and bad practices going unremarked is what causes some, especially newbies, to become known, as Minne puts it, as a "bad buyer" and since this a forum for advice, I offer mine, because I DON'T want this newbie to end up losing a boat he really wants because he inadvertently pisses a seller off.
So, in reality, you only have this newb's best interest at heart. And you were simply pointing out that his actions could be perceived as "cowardly" in order to help him and other newbs avoid potential heartache in their boat buying endeavors. Sounds like you're actually a really good guy and we just misunderstood your true intent. Maybe next time you should say all that in the beginning.

After all you wouldn't want to be in that camp where...

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Brave men sometimes do cowardly things.
...like picking on newbs and chicks.
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How did he gain his money?
did you forfeit a deposit.
So, back to the thread...jaym, I was wondering about this too.
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Oh good lord, smack, don't be such a drama queen.
I'm not "picking on the kid."
Quit blowing things out of proportion.
if I edit the word "cowardly" out of my post, are you still going to feel that i am "picking on the kid" because the word "discourteous" is still there?
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