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Old 09-10-2012
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I really thought I could forgo buying that boat and living on it and still be happy but that plan just doesn't seem to be working. I love the sea. I love the adventure. And I miss terribly the times, good & bad, boring & terrifying and everything in between that made me feel so alive.

I have tried to convince myself I can live in the same house I have for half my life and find some way to be happy. That attempt seems to be failing.

I've always put others before me. It was how I was taught to be. I'm approaching my 62nd birthday. My kids are doing well, my siblings I rarely see, my friends have their own life. But I have my partner, who I love dearly and who loves sailing, but who also is 10 years younger and still needs to work to secure a decent retirement.

And therein lies my dilemma. If I sell the house, she has to relocate with me and find another job. It took her 3 years to find the job she just got, right about the same time I was nearing completing the house to put up for sale.

I know no one here can tell me what's best. I'd just like some feedback from those who have heeded the call of the sea, even if it meant "inconveniencing" those they love.
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Re: Tell me one more time

my family understands they should call for salvaging my stuff and gato if my SPOT tracker shows no progress and they dont hear from me in a few weeks.....

i dont have partner to worry about, and i do have much family....

if partner needs to work, and you need to sail -- sail and have partner join in places for vacations......and vice versa---you can go to partner and partner can go to you....
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Re: Tell me one more time

Go sailing, you are not getting any younger. Get a boat you can handle by yourself but can accommodate two.
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Re: Tell me one more time

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I know no one here can tell me what's best. ...
Wrong. Almost everyone here will tell you what's best.

Best of luck with your decision.
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Re: Tell me one more time

That's a tough one. I do think that, in the end, the relationships we have with our loved ones will trump sailing. The key, as you know, is to combine them. Personally, I'd never jeopardize my relationships with my wife and son to pursue sailing, but we do have mutual goals on this front and hopefully will live the dream when our son is done school and off to college.

Best of luck.
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Go sailing ... loved ones will understand or else lol .

I'm 55 and a year away still
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I dont get the problem. Smaller boats (<30') are very cheap right now. You could buy one and sail it single handed or with a few friends.
You MIGHT consider using MY boat but you'd have to realize my standards of comfort are seriously spartan, She is 28' in Marsh Harbor, Bahamas and I'm not using her much.
Did I mention that I LIKE the smell of diesel?
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Re: Tell me one more time

Get a day sailor or something that you can travel longer on when your partner has vacations. This way you can hone your skills and enjoy life.

I wouldn't dream of telling you how to live your life since it's a full time living mine.

Good luck and enjoy!
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Re: Tell me one more time

Why does it have to be either or? Keep the house and buy a smaller boat for now. Go sailing for a week, a month, or more, and then come home. When you are both ready, sell the house buy the "big boat" and take off.
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Re: Tell me one more time

"securing a decent retirement" may be the problem......
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