Boy, so many good perspectives here. I understand your fatherís dream and these are the kinds of things spouses can understand, so you want to be sure that she is aware of that. The fact that you have a way to pay for the fees, yet something for the kids always comes up and the slip fees just donít come up high in her list of priorities also makes sense -- whether I agree with that or not.
Hereís a silly question: If you were to have a powerboat instead of a sailboat and it had the same slip fees, would those fees suddenly move up in your wifeís list of priorities? If so, then the whole motion of the sailboat might be one reason for her objections. As many have said, you are not going to convince her of anything
, because it may not be a financial issue. And the only way to find out what is behind all of this is to talk about it more deeply than perhaps you already have.
Even for someone relatively young with young kids, your fees donít seem so outrageous to me, at least not for the potential pleasure you and your kids get from sailing.
And hereís some really outrageous advice (that if I were in your place I wouldnít
do because of the purchase cost) get a MacGregor 26 or a Hunter Edge; they both provide the chance to move straight out with their engines like a powerboat, yet can also sail. Sure, theyíre a compromise, and people just love to bash the MacGregors on most sites (mineís a 25), though I would suspect for many of us, the difference in performance isnít so noticeable.
Good luck. We'd hate to lose you from our little fraternity/ sorority on the water!