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Should really go where people are. Has anyone posted this on CF? If not, I'll hook Glenn up over there. I can also pimp it over at SA in the cruising section.

It's a good read. And I love it that he's published this completely on his own. Very cool.
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That's a good one, Smackdaddy. I'm baffled when people are shocked (shocked!) that someone as "old" as me, 52, expresses attraction to 20-somethings and 30-somethings. Some people react as if it were really strange, practically a perversion.

Forty years ago a 55-35 relationship was very, very much in style. Steve McQueen and Ali MgGraw in the original The Getaway, to name just one example of many.

A hundred years ago the perfect ages for a newly married middle class couple was 45 and 25. He was mature and financially and professionally successful. She was young and pretty and the ideal physical age to have children. Millions of couples with that age spread married - which was why there were so many widows during the 1930's and 40's.

I'm mystified as to why a 50-something man would be motivated to marry a 50-something woman. I'm not saying it's "wrong" of course, but it's a mystery to me why the man would be motived (or a woman with a successful career who is self-supporting). They won't have children. They won't be approved for adoption. Is the man just too lazy to cook and clean for himself? I don't understand.
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Smack and TakeFive:

Your're right, it's not a topic we're going to make progress on. I am not "waiting" for a 20 or 30-something anyhow - I do not expect to ever date again, and I am cool with that. I have a tremendous amount of time and energy (and money!) at my disposal, not to mention freedom. I'm happy with the way things turned out, and I feel grateful and fortunate for what I have. Hallmark is NOT gonna make a card with this, but the truth is some people can be happy without a lover.

Composting heads can work very well on a boat with two caveats: one or two people aboard, and no one pisses into the main tank. If those two limitations can be met, I believe it is a far better option than the traditional hoses, valves, and tank.

I wouldn't buy a Portland Pudgy again. I was attracted to it because they marketed it as a lifeboat/tender. This way, I figured, I wouldn't need a $6000 liferaft. In reality, two people at the most would fit in that thing under realistic conditions. And I would not want to have to wrestle it into the water in any kind of sea while my vessel was on fire or sinking fast. With four people aboard, I had to get the liferaft anyhow.

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If anyone is kind enough to start a thread on another site and someone has a question for me, please let me know! I appreciate it!
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Re: Newbe with no experience buys big boat

Well we disagree about a few things, and some of my opinions probably sounded too closed-minded, so I won't try to defend them.

You seem like a decent guy, and you wrote a good book. I really respect you for getting out there and trying to live the dream, and even more so for changing course once you realized the dream wasn't cracked up to what you thought it would be. You obviously learned a lot about sailing - and about yourself - in the process. And it sounds like life has been OK in the ~10 years since the events in the book took place.

I look forward to having you hang around here for awhile.
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Thanks TakeFive. I wish I had known about this site back in 2003-04!
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1. Who cares who Glenn's attracted to and who he isn't? All this crap about him needing to "change his attitude" and settle for fatter, uglier chicks?
I haven't read through all the responses....but I must have missed this one...who suggested that?


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If anyone is kind enough to start a thread on another site and someone has a question for me, please let me know! I appreciate it!
Glenn,

I essentially cut and pasted David's post here to other forae.
At Anything-Sailing I actually defended you from a coincidental happenstance: Newbie with no experience buys big boat

There is not that much traffic there but they are an interesting group of folks.

I also posted it over at sailboatowners.com which got a few replies: Newbie with no experience buys big boat - SailboatOwners.com

I did finish reading your book on my kindle a day or so ago. I did enjoy reading it as I'm sure many other boaters would. All in all, congrats on accomplishing what you were able to, Ha Ha and back single handed.
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I forget exactly who, Joe, but I get that advice all the time! All told, it's a pretty fruitless topic, but it can be interesting to see cognative dissonance at work, how people can hold two mutually exclusive beliefs at the same time, without noticing they contradict. In this case, 1. Beauty is subjective, in the eye of the beholder, and 2. YOU must define YOUR notion of beauty the same as other people. If other men consider an overweight 50-something woman beautiful, you must also.

Can't both be true at the same time, yet people accept them side by side. I guess it's an old evolutionary quirk inside our heads: people do not like to see functional humans without a mate, and all reasons for it are rejected out of hand.
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