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Re: Smackdaddy needs your thoughts/prayers

I'm torn up by the sheer arbitrariness of the event. You and your boys deserve none of it, and yet there it is. The only solace I can see is to show the boys that it need not always be so. You will need time to get there. Call in favours and options to give you that time.
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Smackdaddy:

I join the multitude of voices offering prayers and support to you.

You have given so much helpful advise to others, here is some advise which will be helpful to you if you take heed:

Accept help which is offered to you. More than that SPEAK UP and tell us anything and everything we might do to lighten your load. It is hard, very hard, for over achieving Class A types such as yourself to accept help, especially if you are a tall, self sufficient, proud Texan, but this is a time when you must share the burden. If you cannot humble yourself to accept help for you, accept it for the boys. Now and for months to come.

Remember that you are now the entire world for the boys. They need you. Unless you take care of yourself, you will be unable to care for them. So ask friends to care for the boys for a while, while you go off and do things for yourself. Please.

Please schedule some rigorous physical activity for yourself on a regular basis. Maybe the boys also. You will need the release that strenuous activity brings.

And now a practical offer. There may come a time when a change of scenery would be welcome. We live just west of San Antonio. We have empty bedrooms for you and the boys. It is said "there is nothing so good for the inside of a man as the outside of a horse". We've got some horses which need their noses rubbed. And a couple of good sized dogs which need a couple of faces to wash.
This is the best advice I have heard in a long time. Really, REALLY good advice, combined with what sounds like, a heartfelt and true invitation to help in a real and tangible way.

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Smack,

My deepest sympathies for your loss and hope the best for you and your sons in these days filled with tears and sorrow... you have many friends here to lean on... we're here for you.

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Steve, my deepest sympathies to you and your family. Praying for strength to endure these times, stay strong for the boys.
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I am with out words, nothing anybody can say will make the pain go away.
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damn smack that so sucks.. sad....rip and soo sad...please be ok and heal well, as you are a strong one--remain so and live. she will always be with you.
is hard to celebrate life when a partner has gone...please continue to celebrate life in your special way.
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Steve,

I am so sorry for your loss. Perhaps this parable may offer some comfort in this time of grief.

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I am standing upon the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails in the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength and I stand and watch until at last she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come down to mingle with each other. Then someone at my side says, there she goes!”

Gone? Where? Gone from my sight… that is all. She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side and just as able to bear
her load of living freight to the place of destination. Her diminished size
is in me, not in her. And just at the moment when someone at my side says,
“There she goes!” there are other eyes watching her coming and other voices
ready to take up the glad shout, “There she comes!”

Henry Jackson Van Dyke (1852-1933)
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Steve:
I am so sorry. I wish you strength.

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So sorry Steve, my prayers are with you.
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Our condolences and prayers go to you and your family.
Be strong.
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