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Making it comfortable for her

Let me preface this by saying that my wife is no shrinking violet and not new to sailing.

What I'd like to toss out for the group (hopefully the "hers"). What types of things do we men tend to not think about when out fitting a boat for BOTH of us to enjoy.

There are the obvious potty related issues (taken care of) but what other things (if any) make it more comfortable for women? I just don't want to assume my priorities are one size fit all.

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Great question seeing I'm nearing the end (stop laughing) of fitting out the boat. Some things I have done more for her than me:
1. Water heater
2. Sink in the head
3. Hand held shower
4. Adequate storage in galley

Other items to be considered:
Unbreakable mirror
hanging storage (do have hanging locker but no lining yet)

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Actually far as I'm concerned setting the boat for my wife is the same as setting it up for me, we like the same things which is why we are married!

If you don't know what your wife wants on the boat I suggest you ask her!

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Actually far as I'm concerned setting the boat for my wife is the same as setting it up for me, we like the same things which is why we are married!

If you don't know what your wife wants on the boat I suggest you ask her!
We do communicate quite well (maybe too well) when it comes to re-fit issues. I'm just soliciting suggestions so that when items come up on the long list of to-dos that I don't push items back on the priority list because from a man's point of view they aren't "necessary". That way I make sure to keep her feelings in mind during our discussions.
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And who knows, someone may suggest an item or arrangement that makes perfect sense but neither of you had considered.

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Re: Making it comfortable for her

Pay attention to what is on the other side of storage. Make-up (presumably only for her) and meds (possibly for both of you) are temperature sensitive. Storage up against the side of the boat will be hotter in summer and colder in winter than storage well inside the boat. Storage up against the engine compartment will be rough on some items when the engine is running.

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Re: Making it comfortable for her

I'm straining my brain cell.

I can think of things I want as the cook, as the navigator, as the radioman, as a reader, as a host, as the only one who may be seasick.

I honestly can't think of anything different that I'd need as a woman.

But it's very sensitive of you to consider the question.
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Actually, very little of a well set up boat needs to customized for the "little lady" I'm sure most of the women will agree.

As this thread was really setting up a boat, this is kind of off point; BUT! Almost without question, every "couple" I've known that are on a boat.... She's more a "visitor" then a real part of the whole boat ownership thing.

I go off like a maniac ( none of you ever see this) when I see women post about "his" boat. (it's really like she's talking about his mistress) She never has a name, or any thing tangible to add... other then "he said, my hubby wants.. my husband needs ... " (now you all know why I'm single and staying that way) LOL


But.. the single thing that the guys (not all, but some) don't do? LET HER SAIL THE BOAT!

"Here Hon" want to take the wheel"? Doesn't count! No sooner do you give it up, you take back. GIVE HER the respect and expectation that she can sail the boat without you hovering and snatching back CONTROL at the slightest hint of difficulty.

(I know... she just walks away and leaves it to you if she gets a little scared or overwhelmed) That is another discussion for the less militant LOL)
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Actually, very little of a well set up boat needs to customized for the "little lady" I'm sure most of the women will agree.
I would never use the phrase "little lady". It really pisses me off that someone would read that into my post.

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As this thread was really setting up a boat, this is kind of off point; BUT! Almost without question, every "couple" I've known that are on a boat.... She's more a "visitor" then a real part of the whole boat ownership thing.

I go off like a maniac ( none of you ever see this) when I see women post about "his" boat. (it's really like she's talking about his mistress) She never has a name, or any thing tangible to add... other then "he said, my hubby wants.. my husband needs ... " (now you all know why I'm single and staying that way) LOL
Once again, nope. We bought OUR boat together. We looked at it together, sat down and discussed it together and are equally as excited to refit, sail and enjoy it as a couple.

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But.. the single thing that the guys (not all, but some) don't do? LET HER SAIL THE BOAT!

"Here Hon" want to take the wheel"? Doesn't count! No sooner do you give it up, you take back. GIVE HER the respect and expectation that she can sail the boat without you hovering and snatching back CONTROL at the slightest hint of difficulty.

(I know... she just walks away and leaves it to you if she gets a little scared or overwhelmed) That is another discussion for the less militant LOL)
It doesn't work that way for us. When we get to the dock, we decide who is going to skipper the boat for the day/night. Please note I didn't say drive the boat, I mean skipper the boat. As in the big cheese, the head honcho, etc... We decide this together because we both bring strengths. She has more deep water/off shore experience than I do. I have more experience on our home waters. Does this make either one of us better than the other? Nope. Just both bring something to the table.

This thread was my attempt to gather ideas on what makes a boat more comfortable from a woman's stand point. Not because she and I don't discuss what we want/need but because I want to be able to offer up ideas that she might not have thought about (most of her experience was on stripped down race boats). I see that this was a mistake on my part. If possible, please lock/delete this thread.

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