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TB,

Aren't all us men "submissively subservient" to them!

Mike
hahahahahahahahaha

That's not my experience!

pb,
it's best just to have friends only...
My daddy taught me never to get involved with someone you work with! end of story!

I've found it's better to love all people, but Trust no one! trust is earned and that thang that people say;
Love cannot exist where there is no trust..!
False. Not true!
we are commanded by God to love even our enemies.
I may love them, but I aint trusting,
Abstinance is the best medicine! Love may be free, but trust, that's earned.
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What do you make of the gender bias in the feedback you've gotten so far? All the women seem to be saying "keep the two separate and proceed with caution," while the men seem to be split on whether to go for it or not? Guess that's why you posted your Q on the 'hersailnet' forum. Interesting!
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I can't see from the feminine side, plain and simple. No matter how much I may understand or be aware, I can only empathize, not know, those things unique to being female. And I am too innately trusting not to accept things on face value, until the full ramifications rear their, often, ugly head.

It may well be, that I simply think too much, and that I worry too much about what is right and fair to others, at the expense of same to myself. Sometimes I'm not sure if it's the more I understand, the less I know, or if it's the more I know the less I understand, or, just simply both.

Two years ago, for the first time in my life, I cut down the safety net, before walking out on the highwire, and learned, I don't bounce. And now, I don't know if there's enough left, to walk back out there again, but know I have to. Yet, I don't want to drag somebody else down, if I fall again. I'm too aware of the responsibility, of not doing to another, what was done to me. Sometimes, it's just damn hard to leave a clean wake.

Yet, it wasn't confirmation, nor affirmation that I sought. From either side of the gender fence. I sought rather, a prism through which to focus my own thinking. And that is just what I got from the variety of responses.
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Alive, is the one, that believes, in love.
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John you did bounce - you just have bruises and they pretty much come with the territory.
Maybe you are extrapolating way down the line here.
If you enjoy her company and want to get to know her go for it but let it develop as it will rather than go overboard.
Depending on what she needs done you could quote a specific job, or rather perhaps as in the ordinary course of things, change a lightbulb, or even give her a hand with say painting jointly. Time spent together doing something allows unpressured acquaintanceship to build. Time will tell as they say. Best of luck.
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Eve once asked God Why he created Man first...He said he didnt want to argue about it....

John neither sex is capable of totally understanding the other...this to me is the best part of my relationship with my wife...

Other wise one of us is not necessary..

I understand your hesidancy ...it is a self protection mode and not easely deactivated....bouncing does hurt and can take years to recover from...

She is out there... thats the fun of looking...K.I.S.S.....
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It's all moot at this point anyway. My only hestiancy arises from not want to be responsible for hurting someone else.
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Ahhh!

Well mate ...that just proves your a good person...

I say pass on this one as it seems you did...but also remember...nothing ventured nothing gained..

You have Just as much at risk as the other party...


If you get beat up or cause damage in a gale cause you made a mistake handeling your boat are ya going to stop sailin?.....

I didnt think so....
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You have Just as much at risk as the other party...
True, but I know how much I can take
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Have a rum and be honest. You really think a woman of your age has no experience of men?
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Eve once asked God Why he created Man first...He said he didnt want to argue about it....
Gee, Still, the way I heard it was ... Man was created first because EVERYONE does a rough draft before the final version!
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