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Old 09-25-2009
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If you feel uncomfortable? Why don't you take lessons without him? Most of the time when someone is uncomfortable on a boat. It's because they feel as if they have no control. Take it upon yourself to get lessons. Maybe once he sees you have signed up. He will join too, but take the lessons seperately!......i2f
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Hi Peg. All good advice. Get over 'losing face'...counseling or whatever it takes. Yep, it is a 'man' thing but 'face' and big male egos abound in the sailing community and can move from stupid to dangerous if things take a sudden swing for the worse...weather etc.

Get the motor, lights etc in top working shape and start using the boat as a power boat only at first. Practice all the simple stuff like line tossing to hang a dock cleat, knots, docking and undocking and do it all SLOWLY. Learn the power of neutral. A very slowly drifting boat can 'hit' the dock without any damage. Practice picking up moorings til you are so good at it that you look forward to it. You drive the boat and make ego-man pick up the mooring. Same with the docking. When you develop these simple skills to a 'T' you will be better than most boaters and have self confidence to move on up to whatever level you choose.

Good luck and happy motoring/sailing.

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Moving forward

Again, thanks for everyone's input.

Since I'm so new, I couldn't PM, and wanted to ask Selkirk the following, but will post it here to all of you...

"We are still struggling with what we can do, and about learning without losing face, but at least agree that a sailing school is a great idea.

We're looking to fly down to Key West or other possibles in Florida within the next couple of months - where did you go? Can you recommend any places?

Thanks for your help again"

Thanks to everyone.

Peggy
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I teach the full curiclum at a New England school and would be willing to do a few days on your own boat...see your PM...or email me.

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When I went for lessons, and they asked what I already knew, I said, "I know my name." Much better to make mistakes in lessons. Take them if he won't. Then, when the wind gusts and he's hiding in the cabin cryin' for momma, you can step in and save the day.
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Peg,

Lots of good suggestions.

I'm a big fan of taking classes, at least at the start to learn the correct, efficient, safe and occasionally easy way to do things. I also think having successful sails builds confidence.

I think its clear that both of you are in over your heads and I think you both should take lessons at the same school but hopefully in different classes/sessions. Being in separate classes gives you the opportunity to take command and/or make mistakes without him getting in the way.

I know that sailing season is winding down in Maine so maybe you want to consider taking a class during the winter in some warmer climate. Make a vacation of it and learn to sail at the same time.

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Lessons

Lessons is a great idea and can't hurt just help make you a better sailor.
I had been sailing sunfish and Hobie's for alot of years but when we bought
our first 29 keel boat my wife made me promise to take a week of sailing lesson's on our new boat.
It was a great idea because we learned how every thing worked on our new Hunter 290 and my wife how to sail and enjoy sailing so much more,we now have a 36 which I single hand all the time it is new and easy to sail but thinking of sending the wife for sailing lesson's again to refresh her sailing skills.
Have fun and lesson's are only the beginning of learning to handling your boat,you need more time out sailing your boat to really get good at it for cruising which is more learning,have fun and enjoy.
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The idea of sailing school is excellent. There are lots to choose from. At least consider the school on North Sound in the BVI. There are also regularly scheduled classes for ladies only. Some real advantages for you in yur situation. A further thought is to consider taking a week-10 day bare boat charter in the Virgin Islands with an instructor/captain.
Even though your neighboring yacht club has a waiting list, I would encourage you to find out when they schedule races, and on those days just show up, asking if anyone needs help or crew. This is a real win/win situation. They need crew, and you need sailing experience.
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Peg, we made a mini-vacation out of sailing school, so I think your idea of a school in Florida is a good one.

That said, I assume you're getting ready to pull the boat for the winter by now (if you haven't already). Wait and schedule your sailing school close to when you plan to put her back in the water in the spring. The sooner you're on the boat and putting the lessons into practice, the less you'll have forgotten and the more comfortable you'll be.

I'm sure there are a lot of good sailing schools in Florida. I've heard good things about the Offshore Sailing School though I haven't taken classes with them. Their web site is Sailing Schools | Colgate Offshore Sailing School and they offer beginners courses.

Best of Luck,
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I'd point out that couples should generally take sailing lessons separately rather than jointly. They tend to learn more that way.
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